2013 losses- rainbow baby making thread...

[george83]

I just wanted to share because I'm in shock....

After almost 10 years since I became pregnant with our son in September 2003 on our honeymoon, my husband finally, finally, finally came inside tonight without anticipating that a morning after pill would be taken.

New beginnings.

A huge weight finally lifted off my shoulders.

Today's events come 23 years to the day that I was hit by a car biking at age 11... And home for two months from school after the bad concussion that followed.

Now comes the really hard part....hoping for a BFP and a sticky to follow.

EarthMama, we're also going to dtd everyday, today is day 8 past AF for me and I still had very slight brown spotting yesterday from the Vitex Chaste Berry so I doubt I'm anywhere near ovulation. I'll test tomorrow though. I'm lying in bed immobile to let it trickle in...also I want a boy since I feel I lost a son. So, we went for less missionary style positions because the male sperm run faster, but die quicker and need to be launched closer to the egg to get there first. Good luck, praying like hell we can all be bump buddies.

Love to all

Yay Lucy!!! I'm so so happy you and your oh have worked things out and your going for this! The uncertainty after miscarriage is bad enough without having to face everything that you been through. Hoping for your sticky bfp soon

Thank you so much George83 . Huge, huge boulder sized weight lifted for sure. I downplayed it with hubby, but I'm headed out to grab breakfast before work and let the tears flow freely. I feel like I've finally been validated and we're on the same page. Hope all is going well for you too, the up and down days are the norm now. I'm thinking to go for it and get baby aspirin in case...

Up and down days have definitely become the norm and baby aspirin definitely can't help, I've tried lots of little things since my mc that I didn't try before, can still feel af coming though, you'll have to let us know how you get on with it x x

 

[george83]

AF has got me again and now I know I won't get a BFP before my would have been due date. I'm just crushed

I'm so sorry sweetie I can only imagine how heart breaking that must have been today. I'm hoping you get your bfp next month

 

[ladyluck84]

AF has got me again and now I know I won't get a BFP before my would have been due date. I'm just crushed

So sorry. The due date is a big count down for me too

 

[LucyLake]

For those that have been asking how often should you bed, I have been told by numerous doctors to not do it every day because it depletes the sperm count and it could decrease your chances. BD every other day up to a positive OPK and then BD that day and the day after, then every other day until AF.

Not in our case because my husband has a normal sperm count. DTD'ing everyday is preferred in such cases because it gives you more chances that one of many will break through. I got pregnant with my honeymoon son this way after one month straight of trying. We started on the 1st, I o'ed Sept 13, 2003 and we kept going until I got a BFP. I hear you though, where male fertility factor is an issue, you want to smep.

 

[AwesomeSauce]

I am so confused about the conflicting things I am hearing from doctors and reading about metformin and why it might be helpful. I don't have pcos, don't have any symptoms of it other than I have miscarried three times concurrently. I have regular cycles, ovulate regularly, don't have out of balance hormones, etc. I went to a new doc and he wants to put me on metformin. He had me take an insulin resistance test and since it was borderline moderate insulin resistant he is convinced I need metformin. The American diabetes association does not recommend pharmacological treatment for moderate ir. I don't like to put things into my body that could be fixed in a more natural way, but I don't know what to do. I have heard that ir could be the cause of recurrent miscarriage, but most everything I have read has tied ir to pcos, which I don't have. Plus I am nervous to go on a drug that may or may not help, and also has a history of maybe causing more problems. Now I have "moderate insulin resistance" to worry abut on top of recurrent miscarriage. I am not completely against using metformin, but I have heard about some pretty unpleasant side effects and I would rather not if I don't absolutely need it.

 

[george83]

I am so confused about the conflicting things I am hearing from doctors and reading about metformin and why it might be helpful. I don't have pcos, don't have any symptoms of it other than I have miscarried three times concurrently. I have regular cycles, ovulate regularly, don't have out of balance hormones, etc. I went to a new doc and he wants to put me on metformin. He had me take an insulin resistance test and since it was borderline moderate insulin resistant he is convinced I need metformin. The American diabetes association does not recommend pharmacological treatment for moderate ir. I don't like to put things into my body that could be fixed in a more natural way, but I don't know what to do. I have heard that ir could be the cause of recurrent miscarriage, but most everything I have read has tied ir to pcos, which I don't have. Plus I am nervous to go on a drug that may or may not help, and also has a history of maybe causing more problems. Now I have "moderate insulin resistance" to worry abut on top of recurrent miscarriage. I am not completely against using metformin, but I have heard about some pretty unpleasant side effects and I would rather not if I don't absolutely need it.

I'm sorry this all sounds so confusing for you, I'm not really sure what to say but obviously you have to do what feels right for you. Have you looked into more natural ways that you could try instead? They won't hurt to start trying now even if later on you decide you do need the drugs to help you x x

 

[karenh]

For those that have been asking how often should you bed, I have been told by numerous doctors to not do it every day because it depletes the sperm count and it could decrease your chances. BD every other day up to a positive OPK and then BD that day and the day after, then every other day until AF.

Not in our case because my husband has a normal sperm count. DTD'ing everyday is preferred in such cases because it gives you more chances that one of many will break through. I got pregnant with my honeymoon son this way after one month straight of trying. We started on the 1st, I o'ed Sept 13, 2003 and we kept going until I got a BFP. I hear you though, where male fertility factor is an issue, you want to smep.

We don't have male factor infertility. My husband has "rockstart sperm". I have had multiple drs tell me not to bd everyday except for the fews days when ovulating.

 

[karenh]

I am so confused about the conflicting things I am hearing from doctors and reading about metformin and why it might be helpful. I don't have pcos, don't have any symptoms of it other than I have miscarried three times concurrently. I have regular cycles, ovulate regularly, don't have out of balance hormones, etc. I went to a new doc and he wants to put me on metformin. He had me take an insulin resistance test and since it was borderline moderate insulin resistant he is convinced I need metformin. The American diabetes association does not recommend pharmacological treatment for moderate ir. I don't like to put things into my body that could be fixed in a more natural way, but I don't know what to do. I have heard that ir could be the cause of recurrent miscarriage, but most everything I have read has tied ir to pcos, which I don't have. Plus I am nervous to go on a drug that may or may not help, and also has a history of maybe causing more problems. Now I have "moderate insulin resistance" to worry abut on top of recurrent miscarriage. I am not completely against using metformin, but I have heard about some pretty unpleasant side effects and I would rather not if I don't absolutely need it.

You can have ir without having PCOS. It could be a factor in your reaccuring miscarragies. When your fasting insulin levels are high that affects inplantation. Metformin can help your body process the insulin better. There are things in the ovaries (sorry for that technicle term but I can't remember exactly what my dr said a year ago) that regulate and deal with insulin. You might not have ir badly enough that you would need to do anything if you weren't ttc, but since you are and your have had reaccuring miscarriages it would probable help. Of cource you need to do what feels right for you specificly. Good luck. Sorry you are having to deal with this.

 

[Raggydoll]

AF has got me again and now I know I won't get a BFP before my would have been due date. I'm just crushed

Kasey84 I'm sorry AF got you. How are you feeling today? x

 

[Kasey84]

AF has got me again and now I know I won't get a BFP before my would have been due date. I'm just crushed

Kasey84 I'm sorry AF got you. How are you feeling today? x

Thanks I'm trying to come to terms with the fact that I won't have a bfp before my due date. Also trying to stay positive that it'll happen for me sooner rather then later. It's tough though, which I know everyone on here understands! How are you doing?

 

[Raggydoll]

AF has got me again and now I know I won't get a BFP before my would have been due date. I'm just crushed

Kasey84 I'm sorry AF got you. How are you feeling today? x

Thanks I'm trying to come to terms with the fact that I won't have a bfp before my due date. Also trying to stay positive that it'll happen for me sooner rather then later. It's tough though, which I know everyone on here understands! How are you doing?

It's extremely tough. I'd totally expected the first AF to be hard to deal but I'm starting to feel its going to be tougher with each cycle that passes. I've tried so hard not to set a target to be pregnant by. It's impossible not to though.

I'm on cycle day 14. I'd normally be ovulating but I've not had any positive tests this week. I'm not sure if I've tested at the wrong time or my cycle is going to be erratic.

I'm glad I have you all to talk too. At least people here don't expect you to have gotten over a loss in a matter of weeks.

 

[Kasey84]

AF has got me again and now I know I won't get a BFP before my would have been due date. I'm just crushed

Kasey84 I'm sorry AF got you. How are you feeling today? x

Thanks I'm trying to come to terms with the fact that I won't have a bfp before my due date. Also trying to stay positive that it'll happen for me sooner rather then later. It's tough though, which I know everyone on here understands! How are you doing?

It's extremely tough. I'd totally expected the first AF to be hard to deal but I'm starting to feel its going to be tougher with each cycle that passes. I've tried so hard not to set a target to be pregnant by. It's impossible not to though.

I'm on cycle day 14. I'd normally be ovulating but I've not had any positive tests this week. I'm not sure if I've tested at the wrong time or my cycle is going to be erratic.

I'm glad I have you all to talk too. At least people here don't expect you to have gotten over a loss in a matter of weeks.

I don't know what I'd do either without all you ladies to talk to. It definitely feels like others expect me to be "over it". As if you can ever get over the loss of a baby.

I'm currently on my 4th AF some the MC and to be honest it's hard every time. I thought I would be pregnant again by now. I try to tell myself that there's no rush and I shouldn't put pressure on OH and I to be pregnant by a certain time, but like you said its alomst impossible.

I've never used OPK's before, but I have some to use this cycle. My cycles have been a bit irregular since the MC.

I'm praying we get our rainbows soon

 

[Misscalais]

So girls I'm back ended up having a chemical, testes never got darker and started bleeding today.

 

[Raggydoll]

So girls I'm back ended up having a chemical, testes never got darker and started bleeding today.

Misscalais I'm so sorry. Take care of yourself.

 

[LucyLake]

So girls I'm back ended up having a chemical, testes never got darker and started bleeding today.

I'm so sorry Misscalais. I was really looking forward to hearing about the next 9 months with you and getting an idea of how it goes after a loss. Prayers that you will be right back to first tri in a few short weeks.

 

[Peacenik]

So girls I'm back ended up having a chemical, testes never got darker and started bleeding today.

I'm so sorry Misscalais. Take care of yourself.

 

[LucyLake]

AF has got me again and now I know I won't get a BFP before my would have been due date. I'm just crushed

Kasey84 I'm sorry AF got you. How are you feeling today? x

Thanks I'm trying to come to terms with the fact that I won't have a bfp before my due date. Also trying to stay positive that it'll happen for me sooner rather then later. It's tough though, which I know everyone on here understands! How are you doing?

It's extremely tough. I'd totally expected the first AF to be hard to deal but I'm starting to feel its going to be tougher with each cycle that passes. I've tried so hard not to set a target to be pregnant by. It's impossible not to though.

I'm on cycle day 14. I'd normally be ovulating but I've not had any positive tests this week. I'm not sure if I've tested at the wrong time or my cycle is going to be erratic.

I'm glad I have you all to talk too. At least people here don't expect you to have gotten over a loss in a matter of weeks.

Kasey84 and Raggydoll, I'm so sorry that the greeted you this month. You are on my mind so much this month because I literally hate this game. I got pregnant with my son and my miscarried sweet baby without ever temping or taking an opk. But, if something is wrong, I feel like I need to know what day I'm truly o'ing. I hope you both get your rainbows soon. This situation is beyond frustrating. I feel really negative because it just seems like all the stories about conceiving even before a first AF are not the norm after all. It just seems like so many of us are waiting.

I had a temperature surge of 0.50 this morning on day 11...but am still at 96.80 degrees and not over 97. I tested on the OPK, but got only a very faint positive. We'll see what happens. I'm VERY nervous that I'll either not o this month at all or miss the boat because we made love on Day 8 April 30 and Day 10 May 2 around midnight...but last night my husband had an all-nighter with our business with prom upcoming and wasn't home. I'm hoping that somehow it works out and I'll definitely be DTD'ing like crazy tonight!! SO beyond afraid of missing the short LH surge and subsequent egg release.

 

[LucyLake]

Ok I don't know what's happening but I'm having cramping. It feels like period cramps. I'm on day 14 of my cycle, guess they might be ovulation pains? Only I have never cramped for ovulation before.

I cramped and had issues with my last two ovulation cycles. I also had some minor spotting, but haven't seen it yet this month and I'm on Day 11. That is good news though if you are indeed on day 14 and o'ing, sounds like a VERY normal cycle to me and an increased chance of getting pregnant

 

[Nimyra]

Ugh... I had random light period-like bleeding yesterday... on cd 7 after my period stopped several days ago... I'm feeling like this is going to be a weird cycle.

I haven't started using OPKs yet. I will in a few days.

I've been really stressed... my school is coming to a close and I feel like I need to make some career decisions, but my career decisions are affected by whether or not I think I am likely to have a baby in the next year. I'm trying to stick with flexible options for now, but flexible options don't pay well.

 

[Kasey84]

So girls I'm back ended up having a chemical, testes never got darker and started bleeding today.

I'm so sorry Hun