African or African-Americans TTC

[DBZ34]

Well ladies - another cycle bites the dust. I just couldn't resist the urge this morning and POAS. I am 13 DPO so I figured I should be able to get a faint positive by now if I were preggers but instead I got a BFN. My temps are still elevated so I'm thinking AF may still be a few days away. It's such a bummer. I dunno what more to do - hubby and I were spot on and DTD up to and the day of ovulation. I think I'm not going to temp next cycle. It's all becoming too much and clearly it's not helping me get pregnant...just fueling my anxiety and obsession with TTC. I'm on month 7 and every month that passes just makes me more and more anxious that something is wrong or maybe we'll just never have a baby. So I think if I ease up off of all the extra TTC stuff maybe it will help calm me down a bit.

Well, there's always hope that you have a late implanter and you could still get your BFP in a couple of days. Some women have gotten BFN on 15DPO and a BFP at 18DPO, so it's still possible. Don't give up hope! You're not out until AF shows up. But if AF is one her way in a few days, I hope the next cycle is the one for you.


I think you're right to try to get rid of the stress of TTC. I definitely found that relaxing makes it easier to conceive. If temping is stressing you out, then I think it's a good idea for you to drop it. I will say as a reminder that can take perfectly healthy couples up to a year (and sometimes up to a year and a half) to conceive, so don't despair just yet. It will happen when it's meant to. I know it will. I'm on cycle 8, getting closer and closer to that year mark...And I know how hard it is when it takes so much longer than you think it should...

Every cycle before the last, we BD on ov or the days right around ov and nada. BFN. This last cycle, I managed to fall pg on a month that I wasn't supposed to TTC and we didn't BD on the "right" days...but I was so much more relaxed because I wasn't worried about temping (I still did it, but I didn't freak if I missed a temp), I wasn't worrying about when we were BDing, we just went with the flow and DH actually pulled out the day of ov because we were supposed to be preventing (I was pissed, but I got over it), so who knows what sperm made it to the egg. Unfortunately, it didn't go the way I had hoped, but it has encouraged me. It might take another 8 cycles until I see a BFP, but I know it can happen, so I'll just wait until God says the time is right.

Next TTC cycle (in Feb), the plan is to BD every other day, instead of every day around ov, to give the sperm time to rest up before the big swim. I think maybe I was draining DH too much right before ov in my mad attempt to get the sperm to meet the egg. Got to build up those reserves...and I'm going to try to relax. Easier said than done, but helpful in the long run.

 

[Nettamommyof2]

Bfn still experiencing increase watery cm, sore boobs, increased hunger, fluttery twinge left ovary, cramping on right ovary, and irritable... If my AF was to come its tomorrow. I'm cravibg salty and sweet foods now...that's my normal.

 

[prayingtogod]

Ladies,

I'm just stopping in to say Hi. Still no BFP. I'm on day 11 of my cycle. Started testing day 8. No, positive yet. Just waiting to see that positive on the OPK and start the marathom.

 

[mrskcbrown]

Hey ladies. Just stopping by to say hello. I know everyone is blessed if you are reading this!

 

[tickledpink3]

Sending some to the ladies that need it and too.

 

[nesSAH]

Just seeing this thread.
BB helped me through my first bump... now TTC #2.

Nice to meet y'all!

 

[Mrs. October]

Welcome nesSah. Hope your stay in this group is brief.

AFM: I'm on CD 8. I have decided that I won't be temping this cycle. I'm trying to just BD every other day. Unfortunately hubby is making it hard - he had to go out of town for work . Hopefully he'll be back on Friday so that if I do ovulate when FF is predicting I may still have a chance of catching the egg. I'm really working hard on not stressing it so much so we'll see!

 

[babyHwanted]

I am really new to this, don't even know if I posting write- But hey, here goes.

I found out I have PCOS in December 2010. I have been to the doctors ever since. I have finally been to a fertility specialist in August 2011. After every test and blood work, we finally got to do Clomid. We did three cycles, which were all failures. I am now moving on to Femera starting Day 3 of the cycle.

I really just need support and people to communicate to. My family is great, but they really don't understand.

 

[Nettamommyof2]

I am really new to this, don't even know if I posting write- But hey, here goes.

I found out I have PCOS in December 2010. I have been to the doctors ever since. I have finally been to a fertility specialist in August 2011. After every test and blood work, we finally got to do Clomid. We did three cycles, which were all failures. I am now moving on to Femera starting Day 3 of the cycle.

I really just need support and people to communicate to. My family is great, but they really don't understand.

Welcome! I have pcos...ive had it now almost 10 yrs in March.


AFm: I'm ovulating ladies! So tonight is babydancing.com!

 

[HisGrace]

I am really new to this, don't even know if I posting write- But hey, here goes.

I found out I have PCOS in December 2010. I have been to the doctors ever since. I have finally been to a fertility specialist in August 2011. After every test and blood work, we finally got to do Clomid. We did three cycles, which were all failures. I am now moving on to Femera starting Day 3 of the cycle.

I really just need support and people to communicate to. My family is great, but they really don't understand.

Welcome! :wave:

 

[mrskcbrown]

Nice to meet all of the new ladies!!!

 

[nesSAH]

I am really new to this, don't even know if I posting write- But hey, here goes.

I found out I have PCOS in December 2010. I have been to the doctors ever since. I have finally been to a fertility specialist in August 2011. After every test and blood work, we finally got to do Clomid. We did three cycles, which were all failures. I am now moving on to Femera starting Day 3 of the cycle.

I really just need support and people to communicate to. My family is great, but they really don't understand.

Welcome!

 

[Mrs. October]

Welcome babyHwanted - let's hope Femara does the job!!

 

[ladykay]

Hey everyone, new and old! I'm constantly thinking of you ladies and sending up prayers for everyone. I realize more and more how many women have complications with conceiving. Although I got pregnant pretty quickly I take nothing for granted and feel very blessed by this whole experience. I am encouraged by each of you ladies for your faith and tenacity. I am encouraging you all to continue to trust in the Lord, pray for God's will, relax and make love in the name of Jesus!!!

 

[babyHwanted]

Thanks for all the posts. I can only hope Femera works. They gave us the information for IUIs, but we will see my progress then see if that is going to be an option One cycle is pretty expensive, so still processing. And of course, insurance doesn't pay for anything. I am thankful that it covered the Femera, because that would have been $140.

 

[floppyears]

I am really new to this, don't even know if I posting write- But hey, here goes.

I found out I have PCOS in December 2010. I have been to the doctors ever since. I have finally been to a fertility specialist in August 2011. After every test and blood work, we finally got to do Clomid. We did three cycles, which were all failures. I am now moving on to Femera starting Day 3 of the cycle.

I really just need support and people to communicate to. My family is great, but they really don't understand.

Welcome

 

[Nettamommyof2]

Hey ladies!!!!

I'm on cd 20 dpo 3....these last two cycle I have been O 'ING so much sooner than cd 30. Right now my main sxs are lower back pain, dull cramping, and tight pulling bloated feeling in lower stomach. I know its early but I feel like AF is on its way...who knows.

 

[DBZ34]

Hey ladies!!!!

I'm on cd 20 dpo 3....these last two cycle I have been O 'ING so much sooner than cd 30. Right now my main sxs are lower back pain, dull cramping, and tight pulling bloated feeling in lower stomach. I know its early but I feel like AF is on its way...who knows.

It's waaayy too early to know if AF is going to be on her way or not. Your symptoms are most likely from the increase of progesterone in your body (which happens every month no matter what), the symptoms you get after 7DPO are the ones you want to keep an eye on. I mean, the egg doesn't even make it out of the tubes before 5DPO and implantation can happen as late as 12DPO...Don't give up yet! You're not out until AF shows her ugly unwanted face.

 

[Nettamommyof2]

Thanks! Kinda did give up alittle only because my AF came really early last cycle with lp being 6 days from FF standards but I say 7 lol

 

[lilyrose13]

Hope everyone is doing good. and congrats to the new mamas, and ladies baking their buns in the oven! AFM, onto cycle 10 ttc no. 1 (although probably ntnp for maybe 12months). Using my CBFM and opks as gave up on BBT coz of crazy work hours and forgeting to check temps first thing lol! But,we DTD on one of my high and 1st peak days and last high day, so just hoping and praying as for my BFP to come soon. Been trying not to stress too much(if that's possible), and just trusting God -if He can do it for others, He surely can do it for me too, and in His timing of course ( the hard bit)! Stay blessed ladies, and let's not give up hope, however long it seems to take
ps, thanks to all the ladies who are always praying and encouraging those of us on this TTC journey.