African or African-Americans TTC

[PurpleKisses]

Fingers crossed for you, V!

Karen, he seemed a little traumatized lol.. he was like, "I've never sat through anything like that." lol...the OB did apologize a million times, though. I just wish I could've seen my midwife...the OB was just so technical, like a lot of docs and almost made me feel like I didn't know what I was talking about when I was trying to tell her what the specialist said about my cervix and everything else. I can't stand when doctors try to make other people feel stupid just because we're not familiar with all of the medical terminology.

 

[ready4onemore]

I've decided that I'm going to test being that I haven't had anymore spotting since the one time earlier this afternoon..I'll be sure to keep you all posted

Please keep us posted. I will be praying for you.

 

[beanni #1]

Good luck V...praying its a nice

 

[FutureMommie]

Ready- I'm sorry you had such a horrible day, I hope you can find a better fit at work.

MrsK- Glad they got your AC working, can't imagine being hot and pg
PurpleKisses- good luck with school, 21 hrs is a lot but I know you will do great! The OB sounds horrid! did he/she have to be so rough? ugggh!

V.- waiting on the results, hope you get a bfp!

I'm waiting to O and trying to not stress out too much!

Have a great day ladies!

 

[PurpleKisses]

Hey future! Lots of baby dust this cycle!!

Has anyone heard from Aj??

V, any news??

It's crazy, I find myself getting more excited about other women's pregnancies and newborns than I do my own pregnancy. I don't know why...

Well, I'm feeling better than yesterday...just twiddling my thumbs and waiting for my scan in 2 weeks and then for the semester to start...and trying to fight off these cravings I've fallen in love with 7-11 brownies and Lipton Brisk teas...not good for the hips, thighs and "bingo wings" lol

I hope everyone is having a great day!

 

[mrskcbrown]

Hey everyone! I hope everyone is well!

Future, baby dust is coming your way as we speak.

My classroom is coming together. Im putting the finishing touches on it the next 2 days. Im going to go to dollar store and get decorations and flowers etc. I think my students will like it. If they dont, I do, LOL!

I will be 12 weeks tomorrow, then one more week til 2nd trimester. Im getting bigger but still looking just "fat". I want to look pregnant. Everyone at my job is finding out. If you tell one, youve told the whole school. Oh well, guess they would find out sooner or later.

My daughter has her first day of 4th grade tomorrow. I have to do her hair. As a black woman, you all know what this entails and I am not looking forward to it!!! Wash, blow dry and put in pony tails. She has a lot of natural hair too, no chemicals. I dont think I will ever put chemical staighteners in her hair. If she so decides when she is a grown woman, thats fine, but just not with my money. So off I go to get started! It takes 2 long hours!!!

Hope everyone is well!

 

[ready4onemore]

Hey ladies,

I hope all is well with everyone.

Mrsk, I know what that is like to do natural hair. I have been totally natural for about 5 years. My hair is to mid back and very thick. People always ask if they can touch it. I hate for random people to touch my hair. My momma use to tell us "don't let anyone touch your hair!" I guess that stuck with me. LOL

Future, sending prayers and babydust your way.

 

[PurpleKisses]

I've told myself that if I have a daughter, I'm NEVER putting a relaxer in her hair. My mom put one in my hair when I was young because she didn't know what else to do with my hair. I've been completely natural for 4 months now...my hair is shoulder length when wet. Doing my hair gets to be a pain sometimes, but I just LOVE the fact that my hair is so much healthier now.

 

[Vrainoire]

Sooo i haven't tested yet..idk why!! but i've been spotting off and on all day with cramps that would suggest that AF is coming..

 

[beanni #1]

Sorry to hear that V.....but there is always still a glimmer of hope until makes a full appearance.

MrsKC, hope the hair session went well. I've gone back natural and chopped all the relaxed bits off...my goodness is my hair dresser suffering. Broken countless amounts of hair picks and I'm sure she must get blisters braiding my hair bless her.

 

[mrskcbrown]

I too was natural for 2 years and in December I went back to relaxed hair. I have a whole journal chronicaling my progress. I went back because where I live there were no natural stylists and it was becoming a major pain to do my hair daily. Do I regret it, sometimes but I do love going to the hair salon and getting my hair styled. I told my bff that this was my last relaxer again, so we shall see. I really want locs, and so thats my goal.

My daughters hair turned out beautifully as usual. She told me she never wants a perm because a lot of women dont have hair on their edges and her friends that have perms and wear pony tails, their pony tails come a loose before school is out, .

Im 12 weeks today. My ticker says 2nd trimester but Im not too sure. Some websites say this too, Hmm?

 

[FutureMommie]

MrsKC good luck with the hair! I'm thinking that if I have a little girl, I won't do the chemicals either! 2 hrs?!? Wow! Thanks for the baby dust! Congrats on 12wks!!!!

V. sorry that you've been spotting but it's not to late for it to stop!

Thanks Ready for the prayers and babydust!

 

[the_key2005]

hi ladies, welcome to all the new ladies and lovely to hear everyone is moving along just great. Just a quick hello and baby dust to our ttc-er

 

[PurpleKisses]

Yeah, I don't go to a salon...I just do my own hair. I spend more time prepping for wash and washing my hair than anything else...because that's the only time I really comb it unless my hair gets matted or tangled in between washings, like if I fall asleep without braiding or twisting it...that's been happening a lot lately so I ended up putting my hair in kinky twists...that was only last week and I'm starting to miss my fro already lol

I keep going back and forth on whether I want locs...part of me does, but then I know that once my hair grows out a little more, I'm going to love my fro and the stuff I'm going to be able to do with it. My bff has locs and she's been trying to "convert" me lol but I think I'm just going to keep my fro...for now

I'm happy that your daughter loves her hair enough to say she doesn't want a perm...so many little girls have been taught that relaxing their will make it long and straight, and they'll be pretty. Honestly, I LOVE to see a little girl with a head full of natural hair lol...


Ya know, I always thought that 12 wks was the end of the 1st tri and beginning of the 2nd but a lot of places say 13 and some say 14...I guess to try to account for the extra 2wks (from your lmp to ov) so everything gets pushed back 2wks...which makes sense so I don't know

 

[mrskcbrown]

Yeah, I don't go to a salon...I just do my own hair. I spend more time prepping for wash and washing my hair than anything else...because that's the only time I really comb it unless my hair gets matted or tangled in between washings, like if I fall asleep without braiding or twisting it...that's been happening a lot lately so I ended up putting my hair in kinky twists...that was only last week and I'm starting to miss my fro already lol

I keep going back and forth on whether I want locs...part of me does, but then I know that once my hair grows out a little more, I'm going to love my fro and the stuff I'm going to be able to do with it. My bff has locs and she's been trying to "convert" me lol but I think I'm just going to keep my fro...for now

I'm happy that your daughter loves her hair enough to say she doesn't want a perm...so many little girls have been taught that relaxing their will make it long and straight, and they'll be pretty. Honestly, I LOVE to see a little girl with a head full of natural hair lol...


Ya know, I always thought that 12 wks was the end of the 1st tri and beginning of the 2nd but a lot of places say 13 and some say 14...I guess to try to account for the extra 2wks (from your lmp to ov) so everything gets pushed back 2wks...which makes sense so I don't know

I see you are in VA. Not sure if I asked but what part are you in? I will be in Richmond on Aug 20 for hubby family reunion.

 

[PurpleKisses]

Oh ok..I'm in Hampton...it's about 1hr southeast of Richmond

 

[tickledpink3]

I want locs too but the maintenance alone will be a job for me. My hair is just so thick, it would be hard to maintain the parts and "neat" look that I want. I know for sure I won't be putting a relaxer in my daughter's hair or pressing it. Don't get me wrong. I don't look down on a mother who does that. Just personally I love being natural and want my daughter to be too.

And I'm getting worried about AJ

 

[ready4onemore]

I have a pic journal of my natural styles when I updated it I will post a link so you ladies can see. I cut my fro really short one Sept and by Dec it was already big. My hair grows so fast. I love being natrual but it is maintence. LOL Sometimes i will get it flat iron but not often.

Mrsk, I love the fact that you daughter loves her hair.

NiteNite ladies.

 

[beanni #1]

MrsKC I agree with Purple on the timings. Our dates get calculated from the LMP but bubs is 2 wks younger, so I think you are in 2nd tri at 14wks when bubs is 12wks if that makes sense. Doesn't really matter either way I have a peek in all tris all the time

Wow so many people with natural hair. I was scared to cut off my relaxer as my hair is so thick and curly. It hurts to comb and the ends get so knotted I'm hoping it'll get softer as it grows. So many people even at the salons get so jealous of my hair cos of its fullness and thickness but living with it is hard work i tell ya.

If I was to have a little girl i would def invest time in her hair and helping her learn how to maintain it. I didn't really get that with my mum so i'm at the mercy of salons, quick fixes and high prices. I so love it when i see little girls with natural hair beautifully kept

 

[PurpleKisses]

@tickled~ are there any loctitians (sp) in your area? My BFF has locs and she says she has pretty thick hair (she's had locs since before I met her so I've never seen her hair out) but she goes to see her loctitian every 2-4 wks (usually every 4 wks but she'll go before if she has something important that she wants her locs styled for) and her locs are beautiful. I can't remember a time when I've seen her locs look "rough" (well, yeah there's been a couple times but not many lol)...

@beanni~ I found that my hair changed as it grew out. When I first cut my hair, it was ROUGH! LOL. I would comb my hair, hair would be all over the place and my scalp would be so sore afterward. I also had to change hair products because the ones I used on my relaxed hair were too harsh for my natural hair. Now, my hair doesn't get very tangled. Other naturalistas come up to me all of the time and ask me what I use on my hair and the first thing I always say is extra virgin olive oil! I love it! I use it as a pre-shampoo, after washing, as a detangling aid between washes and when my hair feels really dry. It's a heavy oil so it goes a long way.