African or African-Americans TTC

[Vrainoire]

so my results came in Negative for pregnancy, thyroids and anemia..there is no reason as to why my cycles were missed..now i have to go on birth control to start them up again...this has all been a complete waste! i mean 3 months of actually trying and 2 wasted months spent waiting for a bfp or AF and now i'm stuck with neither..I will be giving TTC a very long break..OH can't seem to understand why I'm so upset or why i want to stop now..but he clearly doesn't understand the toll that TTC takes on a woman emotionally..he says we have years and that is true but my mom is 60 she looks very good for her age but i want my children to know her and i want her to be able to enjoy them.. smh..i could go on an even longer rant right now but i won't..i'm just so upset and hurt right now..i know that getting a BFP would have been a stretch but it was what I expected...

Awhh Im sorry Vrainoire. Why do you have to take birth control if you are trying to get pregnant? That sounds counteractive? Could they have not given you progesterone/prometrium to start your cycles? I know how bad you wanted this, Im sorry. Hold onto hope, dont give up!

she told me that the birth control would regulate my cycle so i guess i'll just use this as a little TTC vacation

 

[PurpleKisses]

WOW Vrai. I'm really sorry. Perhaps, it's a good thing that you're taking a break from TTC. I know it sounds crazy, but remember, the Most High knows better than we do. Hopefully, the birth control will regulate your cycle so that when you're ready to get back to TTC, your BFP will come soon after.

 

[InLuv2]

Vrai,
Sorry to hear that news. However, all is not lost. TTC is a very daunting process that even I lack patience with. God bless you and all of your efforts don't give up.

AFM, again lacking patience. I Have an appointment to see OB/Gyn on Dec 9th for referral to fertility specialist. It's only been two months, however I don't have a lot of time. Selfishly, I'm trying to conceive by time I finish my degree and head back to work within the next 2years I'd rather jump start the process since I'm 38 and my hubbs (as crazy as he is) wants two children. lol......

I will keep you ladies posted on the visit and future referrals.

Have a great weekend.

Inluv

 

[Vrainoire]

Thanks Ladies

 

[mrskcbrown]

so my results came in Negative for pregnancy, thyroids and anemia..there is no reason as to why my cycles were missed..now i have to go on birth control to start them up again...this has all been a complete waste! i mean 3 months of actually trying and 2 wasted months spent waiting for a bfp or AF and now i'm stuck with neither..I will be giving TTC a very long break..OH can't seem to understand why I'm so upset or why i want to stop now..but he clearly doesn't understand the toll that TTC takes on a woman emotionally..he says we have years and that is true but my mom is 60 she looks very good for her age but i want my children to know her and i want her to be able to enjoy them.. smh..i could go on an even longer rant right now but i won't..i'm just so upset and hurt right now..i know that getting a BFP would have been a stretch but it was what I expected...

Awhh Im sorry Vrainoire. Why do you have to take birth control if you are trying to get pregnant? That sounds counteractive? Could they have not given you progesterone/prometrium to start your cycles? I know how bad you wanted this, Im sorry. Hold onto hope, dont give up!

she told me that the birth control would regulate my cycle so i guess i'll just use this as a little TTC vacation

Oh ok I was told that before too from my previous doctors but it never did regulate it. I knew it was something more but no one would research, just kept throwing me on birth control. It wasnt until I went to a fertility specialist that I found out the root cause of my issue. I am wishing you lots of luck on your TTC vacation.

 

[ready4onemore]

Good morning ladies,

I hope everyone is doing well. Nice and chilly here in Texs. I will be doing some studying and relaxing. Have a great day ladies.

 

[Vrainoire]

so my results came in Negative for pregnancy, thyroids and anemia..there is no reason as to why my cycles were missed..now i have to go on birth control to start them up again...this has all been a complete waste! i mean 3 months of actually trying and 2 wasted months spent waiting for a bfp or AF and now i'm stuck with neither..I will be giving TTC a very long break..OH can't seem to understand why I'm so upset or why i want to stop now..but he clearly doesn't understand the toll that TTC takes on a woman emotionally..he says we have years and that is true but my mom is 60 she looks very good for her age but i want my children to know her and i want her to be able to enjoy them.. smh..i could go on an even longer rant right now but i won't..i'm just so upset and hurt right now..i know that getting a BFP would have been a stretch but it was what I expected...

Awhh Im sorry Vrainoire. Why do you have to take birth control if you are trying to get pregnant? That sounds counteractive? Could they have not given you progesterone/prometrium to start your cycles? I know how bad you wanted this, Im sorry. Hold onto hope, dont give up!

she told me that the birth control would regulate my cycle so i guess i'll just use this as a little TTC vacation

Oh ok I was told that before too from my previous doctors but it never did regulate it. I knew it was something more but no one would research, just kept throwing me on birth control. It wasnt until I went to a fertility specialist that I found out the root cause of my issue. I am wishing you lots of luck on your TTC vacation.

thanks..I know I won't be gone too long..smh I'm too ready for my BFP lol

 

[FutureMommie]

Vrain- I'm sorry for the bad news, and you are right ttc is a very emotional process, my dh had to remind me that each month his hopes are up too and when af arrives his hopes are dashed.

Purple- I'm glad you are feeling better

InLuv- I love your positive attitude! Ikeep us posted on your referral

MrsKc-How are you?!?!?

Rai- Looks like you don't have much longer, good luck!!

AFM- AF showed today, or atleast I'm spotting so she will be full force tomorrow. ofcourse I was bummed but Thanked God anyway for all the many blessing that I've already been blessed with. I must admit that the fertility drugs make me feel horrible and I'm not looking forward to going thru that again this cycle but I guess I'll do what I have to do! I did buy a pair of shoes so that made me feel better too! You know we women love our shoes.

Hope everyone is having a great weekend.

 

[Vrainoire]

So I just read that Vitamin C and Black Cohosh can induce your period so..I just took both hopefully after taking these for a couple of days AF will show up

 

[ready4onemore]

Hey ladies,

Future, I hope she doesn't show. Please keep us posted.

Vrain, I heard that ginger root can too. I am not sure if you boil it and make tea or what. I try to reasearch it and find out too.

I hope everyone is doing great today.

 

[Tititimes2]

Hi, ladies. It's been a few difficult days and I'm trying to pull myself out of the depths. I was feeling all the signs and symptoms, no AF and Friday started spotting. Saw the doctor who said "something is up" and it wasn't the witch after an intravaginal sono despite a BFN. I was pretty sure I was starting another m/c. After two days, I am now more than sure. Having tests tomorrow and another doctor visit Saturday but I already know.

I am exhausted and I suppose now I just take it as it comes and keep putting one foot in front of the other.

 

[InLuv2]

Vrain- I'm sorry for the bad news, and you are right ttc is a very emotional process, my dh had to remind me that each month his hopes are up too and when af arrives his hopes are dashed.

Purple- I'm glad you are feeling better

InLuv- I love your positive attitude! Ikeep us posted on your referral

MrsKc-How are you?!?!?

Rai- Looks like you don't have much longer, good luck!!

AFM- AF showed today, or atleast I'm spotting so she will be full force tomorrow. ofcourse I was bummed but Thanked God anyway for all the many blessing that I've already been blessed with. I must admit that the fertility drugs make me feel horrible and I'm not looking forward to going thru that again this cycle but I guess I'll do what I have to do! I did buy a pair of shoes so that made me feel better too! You know we women love our shoes.

Hope everyone is having a great weekend.

@Future, our cycles are so close or possibly the same day. My tummy is cramping so bad, I really want AF to show. Maybe I will get some relief by tomorrow.

Keep doing what you have to do, it's for the good. Ps......ninewest.com has a great sale going for the shoe lover in you

Inluv

 

[mrskcbrown]

Hi, ladies. It's been a few difficult days and I'm trying to pull myself out of the depths. I was feeling all the signs and symptoms, no AF and Friday started spotting. Saw the doctor who said "something is up" and it wasn't the witch after an intravaginal sono despite a BFN. I was pretty sure I was starting another m/c. After two days, I am now more than sure. Having tests tomorrow and another doctor visit Saturday but I already know.

I am exhausted and I suppose now I just take it as it comes and keep putting one foot in front of the other.

Praying for you hun!

 

[FutureMommie]

Titimus-I am so sorry and I am praying for you

Inluv2- Thanks for the shoe tip, I will certainly check it out

AFM-AF is now full force and to top it off when I got home yestereday from my trip I open an invitation to a baby shower, my 1st one in the 2.5+ years we have been trying needless to say I had a melt down. I think I may take a mini break from the board, I'm not totally sure yet but I just need to get myself together and pray for the strenght to go on! I'm feeling a little hopeless today.

 

[ready4onemore]

Good morning ladies,

I hope all is well with everyone.

Tititimes, I hope things get better for you.

Inluv, your trip is coming soon.

Mrsk, how are you feeling these days. Your LO will be here in no time.

Future, We will miss you if you do take a break. However, I do understand and I will continue to pray for you. Be blessed.

Have a great day ladies.

 

[PurpleKisses]

Ladies, please don't give up hope. I know it's hard, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

Also, remember that everyone has their struggles. It may not be fertility, but everyone has something in their lives that could be a lot better. Remembering that helps me to keep everything in perspective and be thankful no matter what I may be going through. For example, so many people around me think that my life is easy going and I don't have much to worry about or stress over...and that's because I remain cheerful no matter what may happen and I refuse to stress over things that aren't in my control.

It's ok to vent and to be down sometimes. I've had my moments. But remember, God is the one in control so just because we may be ready for our blessing doesn't mean that God is ready to deliver it. I remember so many times when I was going through a trial (like my financial aid situation a few months ago) and I would just hear a voice tell me, "Woman, humble thyself." and it would make me realize that it's not about what I want to happen, it's about the Most High's plan for me...and at that point, I'd just let go and meditate and pray...I mean TRULY let go...and say whatever happens, happens...no wishing or hoping...I'd just let things happen...because I knew at that point, the Most High had heard my plea, and there was nothing more for me to do...

Just some thoughts of mine....I hope everyone has a lovely day.

 

[ready4onemore]

Hello ladies,

I hope everyone is well. What is everyone doing for Thanksgiving? Is anyone cooking or just visiting? I am going to cook a small meal this is hubby's first Thanksgiving without his mother (she passed away this passed March). He was her only boy and very spoiled. LOL

 

[Vrainoire]

Hey hope all is well with everyone
Ready- we're visiting this Thanksgiving, my cousin is getting a Thanksgiving spread in Southern Living magazine so everyone will be there.
AFM- I thought the vitamin C was working, took it for 3 days upping the dosage everyday, got brown spotting for two days and still nothing..back to the doctors I go

 

[PurpleKisses]

I'm not really sure. I was going to go home (DC area) for thanksgiving but I think OH and I may just spend Thanksgiving here...his mom lives right down the street, so we may go over there. I wish DS was here...such is life, though...things will be different next year for sure..

 

[mrskcbrown]

Hey everyone!

@ready: I am going to Chicago for thanksgiving to visit my parents and grandma. I am only cooking the mac n cheese

I go for my glucose test tomorrow and I am not looking forward to it. At least im off from work and can come home and sleep!