Cautiously Pregnant After A Loss. PMA, But Not Taking It For Granted.

[pichi]

well - my gender guess for this one *pats tum* is now boy. i have felt quite queasy with this one - i didn't get that with Pixie so my guess is boy haha... although it would have been nice to have another girl

looking forward to the scan Lozdi

 

[debzie]

Bumpy that site looks good with amazing results. Also good luck for the adoption application that's a tough decision to make and think you are one special lady.

welcome hopeit wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months.

Liz can't wait to see the pics and know what your having.

Pink glad you can make light of things lol.

Pichi would be so nice for you to have one of each. So glad your feeling sick it adds reasurrance. Lol.

Afm less than 24 hrs until scan day. Got loads planned today to keep me busy lunch at my patents then taking dd to the park and must get some gardening done. Picnic tea in the garden I think also. Still having cramps which again got worse last night just lick the past few saturdays. Feeling mega bloated too. Hope eve

 

[debzie]

Everyone enjoys the sunshine.

 

[pinksmarties]

Fab sunshine here, just pottering about in the garden.

Debzie - glad you are being kept busy today to take your mind off things.

pichi - I am sure the gender guess will swing backwards and forwards depending on your symptom but yay for queasyness!

I bought the new Jane Eyre DVD yesterday so might watch that tonight but just going to enjoy the warmth and the sun this afternoon.

 

[sarah_anne]

I had a dream that I was having a boy two nights ago and really thought I was having a boy. Then last night I had one where we went to our scan and were told we were having a girl and I was so upset! Craziness! I originally wanted a girl really bad, but now I want a boy, but I'll take whatever we get as long as they're healthy.

 

[pichi]

I'm guessing boy for you sarah

 

[hopeithappens]

loz - defo heart stopping, i think it takes me longer to recover than him cant wait to see the scan pics

hi pichi pink,debzie clobo and anyone ive missed sorry

i cant believe how sick i feel yet all i want is a nice bag of chips with salt an vinegar (i never have salt and vinegar on chips), or cereal so cornflakes had to do, i can remember feeling like this with ds i felt sick 24/7 from about 5-13 weeks

 

[Lozdi]

Tehehehe...my third boy! He was super active and measuring one week ahead based on skull size! The scan was awesome I highly recommend babybond, she showed me everything and when he finally let us see the bits, Mr Willy as very obvious lol, which of course made OH's head swell! By boys payed no attention, as there was lego in the room haha typical of them that is

Now begins the long, long everso long debate on what our new little fella's name shall be. I have Marcellus and Lucian already, naming Bellybean will not be easy!

Debzie what time is your scan?

 

[hopeithappens]

yay loz congrats on another boy

i already have a name picked out if i have a girl hollie louise, i would love to call it oliver ollie for short if we have another boy but oh doesnt like that name but he chose ds name so its MY turn this time

 

[debzie]

Congratulations Loz another boy. My scan is nice and early 0910.

 

[Lozdi]

I'll be sat here with crossed fingers eyes toes legs and whatever else I can cross Debzie, is the hospital far away? How soon can you let us know how it goes? I have my 16w m/w appointment at 11 so if I don't catch you before I'll catch you after. Remember to breath in the waiting room! I had to keep reminding myself to breath while waiting for my first 2 scans!

Hope those are lovely names Goodness only knows what OH and I will pick, we are both very very fussy and stubborn so I can see a possible fight in our future!

 

[debzie]

Thank loz just thinking about it now is making my heart race. The hospital is only 15 mins away and will update as soon as I can. The epau are not very good at sticking to times though as some emergency scans can get pushed in first. Plus after you see the midwife then wait for scan then wait again to see midwife and there is only two on seeing everyone. So chances are you will be at your appt. Must also remember not to drink too much as I am.usually bursting by the time I'm scanned. I do try and breath and oh kicks me if I'm looking too stressed and grips my hand. Glad he will be thete with me tomorrow.

 

[Lozdi]

Not long now, and you'll be in there- hopefully there wont be a huge wait with going in so early. My epau scans had quite a wait but they were around midday, and it was crazy in there by then!

 

[pinksmarties]

Will be thinking of you Debzie and sending lots of love and keeping it all crossed which might make working a bit difficult. I won't get onto a pc till 12-ish but you will be in my thoughts.

Yay for another boy loz - I knew it! How did the news go down with your FIL?

Having a few bad moments today. The day started off okay but had a real wobble about tea time, very anxious and panicky, racing heart and ready to burst into tears. No real reason why, symptoms I have still remain. I tried to talk to OH about it and said I was anxious and his first response was 'why?' - What do you mean why you total moron? My usual response to this is to withdraw into myself, had a doze (as I haven't been sleeping much) and pretty much ignore him. I have chatted about it again and I think he slightly understands what is going through my head, he suggested I try to forget about it as much as possible but that is difficult with cramps, achey back and sore boobs (and I am glad I have these symptoms don't get me wrong). Sorry for my winge, just needed to vent to those that will understand, how one day I can be fine and the next a wreck.

 

[Lozdi]

OH didn't quite understand just how worried I was in the first few weeks either, men can be so daft lol bless um. FIL was ok, just worried about how we will afford another one, but was put at ease by the fact that a boy won't cost much, we already have boys clothes from newborn to age 7! Plus I already have money for a new pushchair and cot saved up. Once his worries were eased, he was very happy as was MIL. Bit of a touchy moment with MIL because she wants the boys to have OH's last name...I stood me ground and said when he marries me, they will have, and I'll not have a different last name to my boys. She said no more on the matter!

 

[debzie]

Hello ladies sorry I have not updated sooner have been waiting on calls etc.

Its not good news Im afraid. I have had another missed miscarriage. Scan today showed the same progress as the last with the exception that the sac and placenta had continued to grow. Fetal pole measured 5 weeks. Sac has allready stared to collapse and there is an area of bleeding around it. Opted this time for erpc so am booked in for wed afternoon. I have been referred for testing too as tis is my third so will await an appointment. OH has asked for us to wait to try again until we have some answers.

Thankyou all for your support

Debs. x

 

[Lozdi]

Debzie I'm so sorry will they get the testing started soon? I hope you don't have to wait too long before you get some answers. I think waiting til you have answers is a good idea, hopefully it will be something very treatable quickly diagnosed so that this limbo can end and you can have your sticky baby.

Why does this have to happen to lovely deserving ladies who will be great mums when there are those out there who don't deserve to be yet seem to have no troubles? If I ever believed in a god the past few months would have destroyed any such beliefs. Its beyond unfair.

 

[debzie]

Thanks loz thats how I feel at the moment its just so unfair. The midwife today was excellent she referred me straight away to the consultant who specialises in early pregnancy loss and recurrent miscarriages and she said that it will not take long for an appointment. I feel I need answers now. In the mean time I will concentrate on becoming healthy again and regain some fitness back. (stopped exercising as soon as I got my bfp) I know I will get my rainbow baby. My journey has just hit a few speedbumps.

 

[loubyloumum]

Oh Debzie I am so very sorry

Thinking of you and you OH at this very tough time for you both xxxxx

 

[Clobo]

Hopeit, aw mate, its awful when kids hurt themselves isn’t it, your heart just drops … glad he is ok and just a few bumps and bruises. I know the thread, I was there from the beginning on that one and it was brilliant!!

Pink, I like that, im going to use that phrase too!!! Yes just look after yourself, I wrapped myself in cotton wool for the first 12 weeks, theres nothing wrong with that. These emotional outbursts are normal, as is the worry, each time just remember to tell yourself that this is a whole new pregnancy and keep the PMA up.

Pichu, so you think it’s a boy then, are you going to find out?? I really cant decide either way on me and this is my first one so I have nothing to compare with!!

Loz, yay for team exciting stuff!! Lol on the names, we have a girls name but cant decide on a boy. How did your 16 week appt go, have they changed your date??

Debzi, aw my dear I am so sorry. I don’t blame you for wanting the erpc, a mc is bad enough without waiting for weeks. Im glad they are referring you for tests, nobody should have to go through one let alone 3 or more. Very good call on the concentrating on your health and fitness, take it easy for a while though. Can I recommend going on holiday, last year after my mc OH and I went for a week in Ibiza to get away from it all and take a week out and it did me the absolute world of good

xxx