December 2013, anyone? :)

[butterfly_xx]

I think christmas is romantic too, LovemyBub. I guess it all depends on when i finish my pill but dont know whether to start trying at the start of December or the end... I quite like the idea of starting on the first though I dont think my OH will be doing anything to prepare his body, he quit smoking 3 months ago though so that's good enough for me

I've not had time to read the whole thread yet, do any of you already have a child? I have a little girl who is nearly 2. I am a bit concerned how much harder another baby will be but my DD would've just started nursery so hopefully that'll make it a bit easier!

I am also 22 & i have a 3 year old daughter who will be starting nursery in september
Part of me is scared about having a baby again & how my daughter will feel about it all but i think being at nursery with her friends will help & just need to make sure we have plenty of 1-1 time.

We have planned to start TTC christmas eve, but i'm hoping we will actually try a bit sooner

It's great that the OH's are making some progress.

I don't think my OH will start at the same time as me but hoping when he sees me making changes & starting to get more serious about preparing he might think about it

I think christmas is romantic too, LovemyBub. I guess it all depends on when i finish my pill but dont know whether to start trying at the start of December or the end... I quite like the idea of starting on the first though I dont think my OH will be doing anything to prepare his body, he quit smoking 3 months ago though so that's good enough for me

I've not had time to read the whole thread yet, do any of you already have a child? I have a little girl who is nearly 2. I am a bit concerned how much harder another baby will be but my DD would've just started nursery so hopefully that'll make it a bit easier!

I am also 22 & i have a 3 year old daughter who will be starting nursery in september
Part of me is scared about having a baby again & how my daughter will feel about it all but i think being at nursery with her friends will help & just need to make sure we have plenty of 1-1 time.

We have planned to start TTC christmas eve, but i'm hoping we will actually try a bit sooner

It's great that the OH's are making some progress.

I don't think my OH will start at the same time as me but hoping when he sees me making changes & starting to get more serious about preparing he might think about it

I've never really thought of men preparing themselves, i think it's something i will suggest to my OH nearer the time. If not, i'll just start feeding him healthuer stuff, i cook so i decide what we it
I forgot we are going to stay with MIL at the start of december so will start trying after that i imagine. Nothing says turn off like your MIL sleeping in the next room How do you think your daughter will be with a new baby?

i can imagine having MIL near by would be a bit off putting

My daughter is caring & likes to help out & she likes having a quick peek at babies in their prams, so i think she will love having a big sister role & i think she will enjoy helping with choosing clothes/bathing etc.

What do you think your daughter will be like?

I think she will be the same! She is very loving, always giving kisses and cuddles. She loves her little cousin too & he's only a few months old so keeping my fingers crossed she will be fine with it
I've been looking at moses baskets this morning, i just cant help myself!! Broody is an understatement lol!!

 

[butterfly_xx]

i have no idea why that quoted twice ^^^^^^^
I'm still new to this website and dont know how to go back and edit a post (as you can probably tell from my typo's lol)

 

[Hollynesss]

Oooh this is the second time someones mentioned the impatient womens guide to getting pregnant. I have loads of pregnancy books but not many preconception books - is it worth buying? I've found it on Amazon and contemplating it. Reading What to Expect before you're Expecting at the mo, its okay but a lot of parts dont really apply xx

so far i've found it very medical stuff, beware of plasitc, dont use chinease medicine, but iv only read the first chapter...im not yet sure what i think

Compared to a lot of other books I've read I appreciated that she only spoke about the important medical stuff. I love her writing style, I couldn't put it down once I really got into it! Give it a few chapters As lauraloo mentioned also, I felt like 2/3 of the book What to Expect Before You're Expecting didn't apply to me, but I felt like The Impatient Woman's Guide 80-90% applied to me! I think different books are better for different women, since we are all in different places in our lives.

Butterfly & LoveMyBubx, your little girls sound adorable, the way they interact with other babies! My DH is funny...he told me, "we're having boys, period, end of story." Haha! Its up to his little swimmers, but I am kind of hoping for a girl I think for me it is because I have a sister, and so I really don't have any experience with little boys. Of course I would be very happy with either gender

Also, I bought my first bottle of prenatal vitamins yesterday It is starting to feel so real now! I also began charting again this morning. I had gotten off track for the last 2 months because we just got married and then spent two weeks in Hawaii for our honeymoon. Back on the baby track!!

 

[Lulabelle27]

hey...me and my DF are going to be TTC#2 in December - we're getting married on 6th December so hoping for a wedding night baby (haha).

My DF is a mature student, i'm a Finance Director. I came back to work when DD was only 7 weeks old, DF stayed at home with her and they have the most wonderful relationship! My time with LO (17 months ols) is all quality time, we do loads together. She has the most amazing and crazy personality and despite me being biased, she is absolutley beautiful!

If we wern't to be married in December I would definitely be wanting to TTC just now, but it only took 1 cycle with our first so don't want to be a bride with a bump (only because I have my dress and squidge won't fit).

In the next 6 months I want to be more in a routine at home and keepong on top of things a bit more and a bit better

My and OH want to revive our sex life - it's been difficult with DD as she has not slept well since 6 months

Lose some weight - I am the same size I was whe I got PG with DD but would like to lose a couple of stone (didn't have any pregnancy or labour complications becuase of being overweight thought)

 

[Lulabelle27]

So I was watching OBEM last night n DH came into the room, and I asked him did he regret not being in the room when Amaya was born, he said not really so I asked would he want to be there if we had another one and he said no babies just yet lol....believe me thats a good thing as until now he was adamant never again.... I reckon if I keep chipping away he'll be on board for Dec

That sounds positive!! My DH isnt overly keen on being in the room when I give birth either... am hoping he will change his mind!

I bet he will change his mind when baby is coming! I remember being adamant there would be no male doctors, felt really uncomfortable about what people would see etc and OH said he did definitely not want to see baby delivering - of course all of this went totally out ot the window! plenty of time to change his mind yet

 

[Hollynesss]

Welcome, Lulabelle!

Congrats on your upcoming marriage!

 

[LovemyBubx]

Butterfly - i am in love with moses baskets & cribs, with DD we didn't find out her gender so we got unisex animal themed stuff but it was all very colorful, this time around i want more neutral things,

I'm in love with this crib set right now, its easier to see if you zoom in
https://www.mothercare.com/Mothercare-Pure-Collection-Crib-Bale/450983,default,pd.html#q=crib sets

Hollynesss - Thankyou i've always hoped for a girl too so i'm so glad i have my girl, now i don't really mind what i have next happy either way.

And my vitamins are in my draw right now, will start taking them soon eeek!

I'm not too sure if i will start charting yet or not, i'm thinking more just trying to bd more often

 

[butterfly_xx]

That crib is gorgeous, LovemyBub!! I think i want a dark wicker moses basket this time. We knew we were having a girl so everything was pink! Thistime i'd still want to find out the gender but would like natural colours like cream, beige, brown etc

Hollynesss, i wasn't fussed if i had a girl or boy first time round but now i have a girl i would say i want another one! Obviously i'd be happy with either but im keeping my fingers crossed for a girl

Heyyy, Lulabelle27! Congrats on your upcoming wedding! I'd love to get married near christmas

 

[Lulabelle27]

Heyyy, Lulabelle27! Congrats on your upcoming wedding! I'd love to get married near christmas

Thank you

Christmas is a bad time of year for my DF as his brother died around then so we thought it would be nice to have something positive to remember too.

I must admit I am quite nervous for TTC#2 as with DD things were very easy, and I guess we got very lucky to concieve so quickly. I am quite impatient by nature so I bet I will be a nightmare haha.

I am also worried about being judged by the MW's again for my weight and having to go under consultant care. Im a UK size 16 and 5ft3 but don't carry my weight well at all, and actually weigh pretty heavy (16st) so my BMI is high. I argued in my last pregnancy that BMI is not a fair inidicator in all cases but as you can imagine it fell on deaf ears! I had a healthy good pregnancy with no complications, and I didin't put on a single pound, but still got lectured all the time. The consultant even wanted me to see an anethatist (SP) to discuss having an epidural incase he couldnt feel my spine...im no specialist, but I can feel my spine. At the time it was quite upsetting so I really don't want to go through all of that again.

 

[butterfly_xx]

Heyyy, Lulabelle27! Congrats on your upcoming wedding! I'd love to get married near christmas

Thank you

Christmas is a bad time of year for my DF as his brother died around then so we thought it would be nice to have something positive to remember too.

I must admit I am quite nervous for TTC#2 as with DD things were very easy, and I guess we got very lucky to concieve so quickly. I am quite impatient by nature so I bet I will be a nightmare haha.

I am also worried about being judged by the MW's again for my weight and having to go under consultant care. Im a UK size 16 and 5ft3 but don't carry my weight well at all, and actually weigh pretty heavy (16st) so my BMI is high. I argued in my last pregnancy that BMI is not a fair inidicator in all cases but as you can imagine it fell on deaf ears! I had a healthy good pregnancy with no complications, and I didin't put on a single pound, but still got lectured all the time. The consultant even wanted me to see an anethatist (SP) to discuss having an epidural incase he couldnt feel my spine...im no specialist, but I can feel my spine. At the time it was quite upsetting so I really don't want to go through all of that again.

Ahh thats nice Your poor DF though

I'm nervous about ttc too, my first pregnancy was horrific - hyperemesis until week 20 then severe pre-eclampsia & IUGR resulting in my DD being born by emcs at 34 weeks
I'm terrified it will happen again but i actually have a meeting with a midwife to discuss all this next month... Me and OH were more NTNP last time but i think it took us around 6 months to get pregnant, this time im hoping to get pregnant in the first month (unlikely, i know lol).

It's awful they wouldn't listen to you about your BMI, hopefully you have someone much more understanding next time

 

[spicyorange]

Oooh this is the second time someones mentioned the impatient womens guide to getting pregnant. I have loads of pregnancy books but not many preconception books - is it worth buying? I've found it on Amazon and contemplating it. Reading What to Expect before you're Expecting at the mo, its okay but a lot of parts dont really apply xx

so far i've found it very medical stuff, beware of plasitc, dont use chinease medicine, but iv only read the first chapter...im not yet sure what i think

Compared to a lot of other books I've read I appreciated that she only spoke about the important medical stuff. I love her writing style, I couldn't put it down once I really got into it! Give it a few chapters As lauraloo mentioned also, I felt like 2/3 of the book What to Expect Before You're Expecting didn't apply to me, but I felt like The Impatient Woman's Guide 80-90% applied to me! I think different books are better for different women, since we are all in different places in our lives.

Butterfly & LoveMyBubx, your little girls sound adorable, the way they interact with other babies! My DH is funny...he told me, "we're having boys, period, end of story." Haha! Its up to his little swimmers, but I am kind of hoping for a girl I think for me it is because I have a sister, and so I really don't have any experience with little boys. Of course I would be very happy with either gender

Also, I bought my first bottle of prenatal vitamins yesterday It is starting to feel so real now! I also began charting again this morning. I had gotten off track for the last 2 months because we just got married and then spent two weeks in Hawaii for our honeymoon. Back on the baby track!!

It's getting better actually, think I'll take the useful bits now and think about it abit more when we are ready to ttc

 

[Hollynesss]

Oh my goodness, Lulabelle! So sorry for your DF, first of all. Your wedding should definitely cheer him up Second of all, I can't believe you were treated so horribly by your doctors :/ Overweight does not always mean unhealthy, and they should use your first pregnancy as an indicator for subsequent pregnancies. Its hard enough emotionally to be pregnant, but to have a doctor make you feel more self conscious is just shameful.

Butterfly, that sounds rough! I'm sorry to hear you had such a hard time Hopefully your next pregnancy will be a bit easier I am also hoping to get pregnant the first month! We can dream, right?

 

[butterfly_xx]

Thank you Hollynesss Well, i'm sure it's not that uncommon for people to fall pregnant in the first month is it? *trying to convince myself it will happen* lol!
I feel like im wishing the time away, hoping for December to hurry up... i want newborn cuddles!

 

[Hollynesss]

Me toooooo!! At my age they say there is a 20% change of conceiving each cycle, and at your age 25%. We could totally be the 1 in 5 or 1 in 4 for our age groups! Haha! My husband's brother and sister both have LOs, and each time we see them I just want to run home and BD right then!

 

[butterfly_xx]

We'll have to keep our fingers crossed that we are that one Hollynesss We can do it!! lol!
My SIL is pregnant and everytime i see her it makes me want another baby! She got pregnant in their first month of trying so hopefully it's more common than we think

 

[LovemyBubx]

I'm also hoping we conceive first try

 

[Hollynesss]

We can totally do it, girls! We are riduculously prepared, know our cycles well, and are doing everything right so far

 

[butterfly_xx]

I'm feeling so excited, thank you ladies
What contraception are you all on & when do you plan on coming off it? I'm not sure how true it is but i've heard that when you come off the pill you get a kind of fertility boost for a little while... have any of you heard that? I'm on the pill so i'm probably just going to take my last pack in November so then i'm good to go from December!

 

[spicyorange]

I'm feeling so excited, thank you ladies
What contraception are you all on & when do you plan on coming off it? I'm not sure how true it is but i've heard that when you come off the pill you get a kind of fertility boost for a little while... have any of you heard that? I'm on the pill so i'm probably just going to take my last pack in November so then i'm good to go from December!

im on Cilest and have been for 8 years, theres a few threads on here about people coming off BCP and it seems to vary between fertility returning straigh away and taking much longer and the advice seems quite mixed. i st down with a calender yesterday and worked out i will finish a pack on 29th november or 27th december - i cant decide which one to go for yet but im thinking november

 

[butterfly_xx]

I'm on cilest too (originally because it helps my skin) i've been on it for nearly 2 years now. I might do the same actually, i'll sit down tonight and work out when will be best to stop. Ahh ok, maybe i'll do a bit more research then, i am hoping for the fertility boost though lol