I feel like a really crappy mum for not wanting to be a sahm we are only a small town, and I don't go to any groups mainly as I work with lots of mums with young children and they go to these groups. I don't want to put them in a position where they feel uncomfortable with me being there or have to explain where they know me from, its completely unfair for them. So I'd just be stuck at home. I am having 9 months off, and took a year with ds, but I was ready to go back by then, I was completely stir crazy!
don't feel like a crappy mum!! there is completely no right or wrong only what makes us happy. If you were to continue to be a SAHM when you didn't want to be then that is when it's wrong. If you love adult conversation, your job and things other than being a SAHM then there is nothing wrong with that. Just like there is nothing wrong with wanting to be a SAHM forever. I get annoyed when people argue whether one is the "better" choice. I see no better nor worse choice, only 2 different choices that appeal to different people. We can't help what appeals to us.
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just wanted to add Melly Welly that I wasn't saying I was annoyed at you as one of the people who argue about it. because you obviously weren't arguing at all. But some mum's feel like they SHOULD feel one way or the other because of this working VS SAHM thing going on.