Sticking Together Until We All Get BFP's!!!!

[aidensmommy1]

Omg my 32yr old brother just had a stroke and is in the hospital and they wont even let my mom back there and we have no clue what's going on. I am freaking out. So many bad things have happened in the past month. I'm afraid my moms going to have a stroke. She just crashed her car, got an eviction notice, and her son had a stroke all the same day. I am on my way to the hospital now. I couldn't even talk when my sister called me for my mom. My mom can't even talk and I can't even talk to dh because of crying and I needed to vent. Thats one of the perks of being able to just type to u guys. I am freaking out! . Ugh!

 

[Wishing1010]

OMG, Mary...I'm so sorry. Please get their safe and keep us updated. Praying for you and your family.

 

[Jrepp]

Mary and Jess, I love you, thank you

And Jess - what happened to your ankle? I missed something! I haven't really been on fb much either - And that sucks with those surgery wounds - I did that a few times too...No idea how they healed so well...i ended up getting steri strips of my own and keeping them on..the glue just seemed...sketchy, lol. Dress shopping is fun! ugh, I bought a dress for Easter at Plato's closet lol...didn't wear it...but, I guess can wear to work sometime.

Mary - Ok I am glad you didn't know either! lol! I need to catch up on how you're doing too, every time I think i have a chance here at work to read, I get a call, lol. I just took a claim for this poor old woman, never had an accident in 50 years, and the woman who hit her left the scene...but she chased her down, lol...but when she finally stopped and the police came, they couldn't give her a ticket because it was her word against my insured's. Poor woman was so upset.

Usually I at least get some downtime here to read and chat lol, but lately it seriously has been soo busy! Every time the phone rings, always seems to be someone with one of my companies lol. Grr! At least it is Wednesday.

Anyone have any plans for this weekend?

I hope Mike will see me at that point. But, who knows. Took a pregnancy test (digital, out of others and have stuff coming out so really can't buy more tests lol) it was negative...but am on CD29 and I guess 10DPO..still not sure...hoping 10 now...better chance, anyway. But Strange cycle. Blah It sucks thinking if I'm out again, probably won't be trying for a bit. I want Mike to get an SA sooo badly! Anytime we take off (at my age) I feel like I am wasting time I really want 2 or 3 kids, but I may be 40 by the time I get one lol Knock on wood not...it feels like it though. My mom had me at 31 and my brother at 35, but...so far away...and less fertile..and less energy I'm sure.

Crap..caller....hope you all have good nights if I don't get a chance to get back on later!!

Poor lady! I hope that her insurance covered the accident. Have you spoken to Mike at all? I know what you mean about taking time off. I'm like, I've already been trying a year and now I have to take 12 weeks off. There is only 10 weeks to go though.

As far as my ankle, I fell down the stairs back in July last year and really messed my leg up. The apartment we lived in refused to fix the stairs after I had asked them to multiple times so they are in ALOT of trouble. I'll attach a pic.....it was bad!

Are you going back to the psychologist?

Omg my 32yr old brother just had a stroke and is in the hospital and they wont even let my mom back there and we have no clue what's going on. I am freaking out. So many bad things have happened in the past month. I'm afraid my moms going to have a stroke. She just crashed her car, got an eviction notice, and her son had a stroke all the same day. I am on my way to the hospital now. I couldn't even talk when my sister called me for my mom. My mom can't even talk and I can't even talk to dh because of crying and I needed to vent. Thats one of the perks of being able to just type to u guys. I am freaking out! . Ugh!

Mary I am so sorry. I am praying for your family and I hope he is ok. Please keep us updated.


That doctors appointment was pointless. They literally didn't do anything except tell me to take colace and miralax. Thankfully my good doctor and nurse caught me on the way out and are seeing me tomorrow to get shots to help the pain and probably more meds. She was like so angry that the other doctor didn't even check the incisions or anything.

 

[Jrepp]

Here is another one

 

[Megamegan]

Holy crap!! Mary, first of all, I am SO sorry. I hope he turns out to be just fine. He is young so hopefully no complications! That is just horrible news. I hope your mom finds a way to be okay, too. So much stress

Jessica, wow, that is insane!! I messed up my ankle really bad in basic training 3 years ago and it still hurts me. Feels weak and sore when I'm on my feet a lot. So I feel your pain. That is some ugly bruising, I hope you get a nice settlement.

Amy, good luck to you, I know you're doing your best and the psychologist is definitely going to keep you and Mike on the right track... you're totally right about stopping alcohol, it will definitely help things. In your heart you know your decision to keep TTC is right and that's all that matters. I understand you completely.

AFM, I'm just commenting to say hello and wow we are all going through a rough time!! Just goes to show you how no one's life is perfect and everything affects everything else. Like, TTC is not an isolated thing in our lives. Anyway I still have the stomach flu. Went to the ER this morning to get IV fluids and they also gave me Zofran for nausea. I had to miss today's performance. They survived without me but things just aren't going as planned and it is no fun for me. I have had constant diarrhea and completely unable to eat food. Just drinking Gatorade. It's the worst. The only good thing is I am losing a few pounds. Lol. My mom actually asked me if I was pregnant today, which surprised me because she never talks about that with me and she doesn't know how hard we are trying. Doc says not pregnant with a pee test. I guess I have to accept it! Lol. Second day of my period, I mean it's a legit period (not super heavy and almost no cramps tho), but to be fair my mom and sister had what they thought were legit periods during their pregnancies, which is why my mom still said I should ask the doctor. The doctor was a jerk. If I was at my usual hospital they would have run a blood test for me, but that's mostly because I'm in the military and they just do extra stuff sometimes because insurance covers everything. I guess it's just hard for me to believe I have a stomach flu when no one around me has it, no one has caught it (I'm in a hotel with 5 coworkers and they're all fine), I wasn't around anyone who had it that I knew of. It's just odd and practically the worst timing possible. Especially coming the day of my period due date and then my period being late. It's just a brilliantly cruel coincidence. Anyway, I'm going back to watching TV and doing nothing while my body tries to flush out toxins. Yippee.

 

[aidensmommy1]

Thank u girls. I just got home from the hospital and he had a spinal tap and we will have the results in 3 days but they believe its a form of meningitis. Meningitis infects the outside of your brain and what he has infects the inside of your brain from what they could see on the MRI. They had me wear a mask in there because they dont know if its contagious yet (which they mentioned literally 5secs after i kissed his forehead! before that they told his gf it wasn't contagious but then the real doctor that came in when i got there said there's a possibility). They're aiming towards it not being contagious but like I said there's a possibility we will all need to go in for shots to be sure the kids and all of us adults dont catch it as well. His kids cant go visit him for at least 3 days while we wait for results to find out which form he truly has. He couldn't even talk. He could only say the words yes, ok, cool, sweet, and part of I love you. He can't understand everything and cant communicate back for the most part. He drew circles as his signature and then my mom had to sign for him as soon as she got there in order for them to do the procedures. They say if its what they think it is, he will need anti viral meds for 21 days but hopefully will have his speech back after 3-7 days. Hes in there for at least 7 days. The left side of his brain is the infected part and that affects speech which explains him not talking right at all. My good friend Ricky died of meningitis 6 years ago and when I first got there tonight, I said "has he been checked for meningitis yet?" because the symptoms were very much so like rickys were and then 30mins later after his MRI, that's what they said they think its a "form" of (or hoping its that form and not worse anyways). I am so scared. And two common ways of catching this is the EEE virus and west Nile virus so that's very scary to think about as well. They have all their kids that play where he would have been bit and its a very woodsy/swampy area. i think theyd be able to tell that from the spinal tap. They said hes not in the clear yet. This is insane. All your prayers will help, thank you guys for being here. He was in the hospital Monday and they just sent him on his way because he has a drug history. That's bullshit! Hes been in recovery for 2yrs and still gets treated like shit. The docs tonight were shocked he was sent home Monday because he was even slurring words and puking Monday! (not nearly as bad but still!) My mom is PISSED because she was with him Monday in the ER and saw how he was treated and then this happens 2 days later from the same thing that they COULD HAVE caught before it progressed if they gave him the time of day. His gf thankfully gets to stay there w him and can call me if anything. Im going to have my 5month old nephew for 1-3 nights. I was quick to.offer to take the baby out of their 6 kids lol. I'd much rather have him during better circumstances though . I am just still in shock about all of this. Ahh. I need to go to bed and get some rest and relax a bit. Thank u ladies again for ur support. Ill come on in the a.m to catch up on ur posts as well. My mind is going crazy! But I wanted to update u on what I know so far. Well good night and ill talk to u in the a.m!

 

[confuzion]

Mary - I know I don't post much here. But I just wanted to say I am thinking of your family. It's ridiculous how your brother was treated. I was seething reading that. I will wait for an update. I hope all will be ok .

 

[Jrepp]

That's so scary Mary, and I pray everything turns out to be fine for your brother! I hope it isn't anything too serious and that he has a quick and easy recovery.



So I just took a shower and noticed some brown clotty discharge that had some bright red blood in it. When I reached up around my cervix it feels like there is a stitch or something in there. I have no idea what it is and I am scared!

 

[Wishing1010]

Praying for you Mary! I hope they get some answers and your brother comes out as good as new. I also hope his kids are not going to get sick either.

Jess, hmm, maybe ask your doc what that is? I'm not sure...I haven't experienced that before (no stitches inside me like that). FX that you get better soon!!!

Megan, I am so sorry you are still sick I hope you are able to recuperate soon, the flu is hard on the body, esp. A stomach flu. Rest up as much as possible!!!

 

[Jennuuh]

Mary - That is ridiculously scary!! I hope they get answers soon, and I hope your brother recovers quickly! You'll be in my thoughts - I hate how hospitals judge past experiences. Treat the patient, not the past! Geez!

 

[outdoorgirl23]

I'm here waiting for a BFP in May!!! I'm feeling hopeful this time around

 

[outdoorgirl23]

Mary,

Praying for your family. Hoping everything turns out okay. Hope your brother gets better and that things turn around for you mother that must be hard on her. I know how you feel a bit my mom has been having issues as well and we have to keep an eye on her to make sure that she stays sane and okay. Much Love and prayers sent your way!

 

[MarieMo7]

Mary, hugs and prayers for your family. I'm so sorry about what happened and how he's being treated. Such a terrible thing. So, so sorry.

 

[aidensmommy1]

Thank you all soo much. As of today hes on heavy droplet watch (contagious) so we all have to wear gowns, masks, gloves, and leave our purses and everything at home. Its very scary. They said they are seeing some progression tho which is def good. Hopefully everything just goes smooth and he recovers quick! We all are anxiously waiting for his spinal tap results to come in. I pray hes just fine. It feels like a dream to me still...i wish

Jess that sounds scary about ur cervix. Its making my cervix hurt just thinking about it. Did they put stitches up there? I'd call the doc n ask about it. Ans omgoshh ur leg looks horrible from falling! . I'm happy its being settled! U deserve that especially since u repeatedly asked for it to be fixed!!

 

[AmySan]

Omg Mary that is so horrible!! Prayers your way!! That is absolutely infuriating with the fact he was in there Monday!! I seriously got so mad when I read that (and can relate) God, doctors can be so awful! Argh!!! Keep us posted, so so sad And your poor Mom!! Why is she getting evicted?? That is awful Can't imagine all of that in one day.

And Jess, that looks crazy painful!!!!! Yikes!!! One of my clients is suing their apartment complex for something similar, she fell after they never fixed something on the driveway they had asked repeatedly to fix...Ugh, so frustrating! i hope it is doing better! And definitely ask about the stitch..that seems very odd!!

I haven't SEEN Mike, but we have been talking a bit through text. Not so much last night, which was hard, but he isn't ignoring me or anything, which is nice. He just wants to see how the psychologist appt goes tonight before we make plans. I hate it, I miss him so much!

And thank you Megan! It is crazy how all of our lives seem have something shitty going on right now! I hope you feel better! IV zofran is like, a miracle, lol. I hate when doctors don't run blood tests...in hospitals..when it is so easy for them to...hell, when they start an IV they usually always get a 'rainbow' (i've been in the ER way too many times lol, they have weird lingo for a lot of stuff) for blood samples, that makes me mad they didn't do a blood test. And as for losing weight, lol, the only positive thing so far about all of this going on with Mike is I have barely been eating anything. Last night was the first time I had a real meal since Saturday. been going all day without eating, then will have a bite or 2 of something at night. Jumpstarted my winter-weight loss lol. Definitely tend to weigh 5-10 more int he winter than the summer. I wish I was on the couch watching tv lol....I am so bored at work right now. Feel better!! Gatorade and jello are so good when you have the flu.

I hope I didn't miss anyone! Was trying to catch up fast! Last night was hard...I didn't test last night...'11'DPO now, CD30 (very long for me) and no sign of AF...no symptoms still. Lower back hurts...can't tell if it is partly from the ablation or actually cramps. My whole body is confused right now, I think. Probably all stress and a BFN I don't have the heart to test...especially only having digis lest...seeing 'not pregnant' is a lot sadder than frantically turning the test every which way, into the light, etc, trying to see a line, lol.

My brother and I were up really late talking...He got home from work at 10, and I was making sausage with Preggo on a tortilla (it sounded really good at the time, lol) And he brought home some nasty cheap flavored vodka..I'm out of painkillers for my back, so he asked if i wanted to do a shot...I was like, why not...so after 2 of those nasty things, we talked for hours about how he doesn't have any memory of my Dad abusing him when he was little, and only remembers getting home to my Mom's and dialing 9-1...then hanging up. He actually did call 911 once, but they told him if he didn't have bruises, they wouldn't do anything. Messed up.

So i told him about the many things I witnessed, which was awful and terrifying as a little girl, I would freeze up and just dissociate for the most part.

Then talked about my Aunt that was murdered 2 months before I was born, how it messed up my Dad, and Grandpa. And then molestation and how it possibly is genetic, blah blah blah...It was a long night and I am sooo tired today lol. I woke up at like, 8:45..threw my hair in a bun, put on foundation and blush and booked it here, haha. I look awful. Trying to avoid phone calls for a while til I can wake up a bit.

Texted Mike sorry, I sent him some emotional rambling text messages last night after brother and I were done talking...lol...He said it was ok, and good morning...then I told him where I'm at with cycle, no period, etc. He hasn't said anything, but usually doesn't when he gets to work.

Prayers to all of my girls!! I love you all! And praying Mike's appt with my Psychologist goes well tonight!

 

[chelsealynnb]

got me today

 

[sunshine85]

Just wanted to share a photo of my love and I...

Also on a positive note

Hopefully we can make beautiful mixed babies soon haha

 

[AmySan]

Ugh so sorry Chels

And very cute sunshine!

 

[Jrepp]

Ok so I went and saw the pelvic pain doctor today. She told me to continue taking the estrogen and then is phoning in a one month supply of bcp, followed by a month of active prevention before we can try again. She gave me bupivicaine injections (like triple what she normally does) and gave me 40 oxycodone without the Tylenol because they are stronger. She told me to keep the wounds slathered with neosporin and covered. I have to have a 3d ultrasound to make sure everything healed up.

Mary- I'm glad that your brother is doing better. Do they have any idea where he got the virus from or how long it will take to recover? It seems that if he has a really contagious virus, everyone he came into contact with should be under quarantine to make sure it doesn't spread. I'm still praying for you guys.

Amy - I'm so sorry you are having to deal with all of this. I really hope the psychology appointment goes well tonight. I really hope that everything works out! Are you guys going to try couples counseling at all? It's weird that your brother doesn't remember much!

Sunshine - I can't see a pic I'll try from a computer later

Chelsea - I'm sorry the witch caught ya. Are you still doing clomid this cycle?

 

[AmySan]

Oh Jess I am so glad!!! Oxycodone is definitely better, and with the tylenol gone, you have less risk of hurting your liver if you need to double up on dosing once in a while. Should help profoundly.

I HOPE we will do a session together again - I have one Monday that I want him to go with me for..but will have to see how tonight plays out. I am so scared. I hope my dr lets him get his feelings out and doesn't just defend me...but helps him understand. And cope himself. He is really really upset still. Ugh