Update - bfn boots own brand?! Please please someone give me hope - late bfp

[laodicean]

 

[LadyLovenox]

I am OVERJOYED!!!!! Got on this morning just to see how you made out!!! Sooo happy for you!! So emotional for you!!

 

[MKaykes]

Yay for a heartbeat! Congrats Red! My symptoms didn't really kick in until 7 weeks, so they may appear soon, which as much of a nuisance it is, is reassuring. Or, you could be a lucky one who feels great (minus the anxiety). I've seen our baby's hb twice now and only have to wait 3 weeks between last appt and next one and am nervous. If you can get a private scan in like 2 weeks to reassure you between I think you'd feel much better!

Take care of yourself!

 

[ClairAye]

Awww, fantastic!! I'm so happy for you.

 

[crazylilth1ng]

Wonderful news!!! I agree with the others tho, there is plenty of time for the symptoms to kick in still...

I’m thrilled for you and hope you can relax a little now.

 

[itsnowmyturn]

Omg I'm so so pleased for u!! I was dreading seeing what u had put because I didn't want u to go through the heartbreak again but I'm so pleased u saw a heartbeat!!
Please though don't buy a Doppler. They can do two things, one is give women false hope when they think they have found a heartbeat but actually it was their own or the placenta and the other is cause unnecessary worry when u can't find the heartbeat. Midwives go through years of training to learn what to look for and listen for. I'm sure if u speak to your community midwife she will be happy to see u slightly more regularly to get a check on the heartbeat. Just tell her about your anxieties and the miscarriages you've had and explain that u just need reassurance. I'm sure they will be happy to help especially given that there is a big move on maternal mental health at the minute.

Go on Facebook and join the group kicks count. They are in the process of getting dopplers banned in the UK and give women the confidence to seek help when they think something is wrong
X

 

[red_head]

Thank you all so much for your happiness for me!
Itsnowmyturn - I have been reading about dopplers and about those problems which are a real worry. I will for sure speak to my midwife before getting one but I think it’s going to be a few more weeks before I get to see them as apparently they only contact you when you’re around 10 weeks. I’m still so nervous I don’t know if I can wait that long!

 

[LoraLoo]

I get the issues with Doppler, and the concerns, but for me it was a life line and I think the only way I got through the pregnancies without setting up camp in the maternity unit!

 

[happycupcake]

No she didn’t tell me the heart rate but said it looked good and everything was progressing well and is on track - we didn’t hear it but could see it flickering quickly. I think due date is about the 3rd of September, but she said she could be a couple days out and they’d confirm at my 12 week!

I was told they don't usually do dating scans before at least 10 weeks as measurements can be so unreliable early on, it's quite common to change how far along you are at the 12 week scan. I had a few different due dates with my first lol
Also agree with LoraLoo above about the Doppler thing. Most midwives advise against them because early on the hb can be hard to find and cause unnecessary worry, but they aren't impossible to find, it just takes time and patience

 

[SadakoS]

To be honest, I think someone who worries like you do (the same as me!) should definitely not get a doppler! It could cause you so much stress.
You'll probably hear from the midwife by about 8 weeks for a booking in appointment at about 10 weeks. Then you book your dating scan for about 12 weeks.
I had an external private scan at 8 weeks for reassurance with my first (extremely difficult to keep pregnancy a secret at my work, so I wanted to many sure that everything was OK). I think it was about £80 but it was absolutely worth it. I also had sexing scans at 16 weeks with first pregnancy and this one. That's part to find out sex, and part because 4 weeks between scans was enough for me and I wanted to check in again ha.
As I have raised bmi I get extra growth scans this time, so it finally pays to be a fatty, as I get to see baby again in a few more weeks!
I've got such a good feeling for you that everything is going to keep going well, just try and relax as best as you can. And I know as I'm saying that how ridiculous it is, because I'm just the same with pregnancy stress!

 

[Wobbles]

awesome update x

 

[doodlegirl]

So happy for you Red. I really wish you this pg to be strong and healthy!!! xxx

 

[xMissxZoiex]

Great update, I didn't have any symptoms my first 2 pregnancies until 9/10 weeks then it hit me like a ton of bricks lol!, I was so nervous because of it I had private scans almost every week. I also had a Doppler which helped me tremendously in those weeks before I could feel my boys kicking.

 

[itsnowmyturn]

The midwives don't always find a heartbeat before 12 weeks either. When I went for my initial appointment with mine she stressed to me not to worry if they don't find it because the baby is so small. They don't plan to see u again until 16 weeks after that initial appointment so maybe you could ask to have one or two before that.

I understand that it's each to their own but I would strongly urge you not to get a Doppler. I no some people have success stories with them but unfortunately things don't always end well after people have been falsely reassured by them. Even after getting a strong heartbeat on a Doppler it doesn't always mean things are ok, midwives are trained to see patterns on their machines and listen for subtle things.
I was once monitored for hours because the machine said to continue monitored because my baby was moving too much to get a proper trace so even though we could hear the heartbeat and all was well and I had actually gone up for reduced movements they don't stop monitoring until the machine says so.
Use your midwife and hospital unit not a home machine. It does get easier once you can feel your little one move. After 20 odd weeks you get monitored more closely anyway.
Have they said whether u will be midwife or consultant led?

 

[happycupcake]

I can understand why some feel negatively about using dopplers at home, but the way I see it is even with hospital scans and a medical professional listening in, nothing is set in stone. Mostly things do go fine, but occasionally they don't and it wouldn't matter whether you used a Doppler or just relied on hospitals and midwives. For me the Doppler provided reassurance, medically trained or not I could still hear the hb which made me feel more relaxed and I think being relaxed is paramount during pregnancy. If a Doppler is going to help one achieve this then it can't be a negative thing. If it's going to cause worry if a hb can't be found then avoid them. It just depends on the person I think and they have to weigh up the pros and cons as an individual as only they can know if it's going to reassure them

 

[xMissxZoiex]

I think its important to remember that you shouldn't use a Doppler if you are actually worried something could be wrong with your baby go seek the proper medical advice from your doctor/midwife but for recreational use a Doppler can be fantastic especially when you've lost a baby in the past just to have a little listen in to help you relax in the evenings its.

As long as you bare that in mind using a Doppler is great.

 

[SadakoS]

I think it can depend on your size and shape as well. I'm a little rotund so even the midwives can struggle to find a hb sometimes - yesterday she was chasing him around my uterus though and took ages to find it, but I think that was more to do with an awkward baby than my constitution ha

 

[red_head]

I’m so undecided about it. I’ve got a couple weeks before I could even attempt to use it to make my mind up! I was in tears most of the day yesterday convinced I was going to miscarry, I am just really struggling and not enjoying being pregnant at all. I think it’s going to take until I can feel the baby moving around for me to relax, if we get that far!! My husband isn’t keen on getting a private scan as he thinks it’ll get expensive with me keep wanting to go back, and also if we did get bad news he doesn’t like the idea of being in a building in the middle of town rather than a hospital. He’s starting to get excited and is being really positive about things, convinced it’s a boy, which is making me more worried as I can’t stand the idea of having to tell him if something happens. I haven’t had any bleeding since the last scan (touch wood) but have had a lot of stretching feelings and some pain - it’s just impossible to know what’s normal. I think the reason why I was upset yesterday is the pain I felt was similar to some I had before I miscarried, but it is probably just growing pains where everything is changing.
I do have a tummy on me so I am worried I wouldn’t be able to hear anything and that would really panic me. I think I’m just going to wait and speak to the midwife about it all. I just hope she calls soon as I am going out my mind and would really like the support! I’m not sure where I will be consultant led - I was under a fertility specialist but fell pregnant naturally, and due to my neurological disorder would have been considered high risk but have just been discharged. With my history of miscarriage and the fact I’m overweight, I’m hoping for a consultant really although I like the idea of a midwife better as I just think they’re more approachable?

 

[glong88]

I no how you feel. I am nearly 14 weeks now and had 12 week scan Monday but because I have no symptoms I'm always worrried. Until I feel baby on a daily basis I think I will keep feeling worried. I have until 2nd Feb for my next midwife and hopefully hear heartbeat then 5th march until next scan. It's going to go so slow x

 

[red_head]

Congratulations! My next scan is still like 5 weeks away! Torture! How far along were you when you first saw your midwife? It is such slow going - especially when they fiddle with dates and stuff so it seems even longer - going by my last period I’d be 9 weeks, by my calculations I’d be 8 weeks, but my scan means I’m only 7 and a half! I want to move on from blueberry size! Lol!
Have you had any symptoms at all? The 5th of March seems ages away now but I’m sure it will be quick - is that your 20 week? Crazy to think that’ll be half way through! Part of me is worrying as I can’t relax and enjoy anything, but I really like to be super organised and have everything planned, and I’m worried that by the time I relax and feel ready to actually think about things that will need doing, there won’t be enough time! I feel like there’s no pleasing me at the moment! I know it’s unfrateful, and believe me if I felt confident there would be a baby I would be the happiest person in the planet and well aware of how lucky I am, but right now, I’m just trying to hold it together!