Oh the hormones! Feeling so emotional today ladies! i think ive cried 5 times already!! A little back story: I have a 6 year old daughter from a previous relationship. Me and her father have not been together in years and we've always worked out visits and weekends and all that. He recently got a new girlfriend who has children and now apparently thats all the family he needs. He told me he doesnt want to see my daughter any longer and im struggling with what to tell her every time she asks about him. (tearing up writing this! lol) Shes old enough to realize hes not coming around anymore but not old enough to understand why he doesnt want to pick her up anymore. Thankfully my fiance loves her to death and she loves him and he has stepped right in as a father figure since day one so in the end i know at least she will have someone in her life but its so depressing. I'm not sure if anyone has been or is in a situation like mine but i'd appreciate any advice and support
I'm in a similar situation, except now that my ex husband has his fiancé he's dead set on playing house with the kids after being mia for nearly a year (again). There are many times he would ditch out of their lives completely. Would stop seeing them and even calling. As they got older they stopped asking because they knew why - he's an @**hole plain and simple. When they were younger I simply told them I had no clue what was going on. When he finally thought them worthy of a call again they'd ask him for an explanation and were never satisfied with his excuses.
I wish with this new girl in the picture that he'd go away forever but he's snipped and she has her own daddy abandonment issues. Seems now they've become obsessed with having them around. She actually pushed him so far and so hard that we ended up revisiting custody (they lost and things stayed exactly the same - judge literally rolled his eyes at "his" new requests after he never even reliably used the time he was already awarded pre new girl in his life).
I do understand why it makes you sad. When mine were younger that's where it sent me too. Now that they're a bit older it just pisses me off. The constant drama it brings into our lives....I can't wait until they're old enough to petition he courts to stop the ridiculous rollercoaster themselves. I will support them completely and give him the finger in good riddance.
Odds are this relationship won't stick and he'll be back to pawing at you for time again in no time - and all at the expense of your daughters emotions and your sanity. If he can walk away from his own child he'll undoubtedly walk away from this new fill in family he's got going on right now. Sad, but that's sort of the pattern for these jerks.
I'm so sorry you're left holding the bag. It's just not fair. You and your fiancé need to do your best to fill her life with happy times, experiences and loads of positivity and in the meantime tell her the truth. That you don't have a clue what's going on with him because really as mothers, it truly is impossible to comprehend how anyone could do such a thing
You are awesome! Ignore them.
