Sticking Together Until We All Get BFP's!!!!

[TTC74]

Ladies we need to all move to Canada! I just found out they have 1 year maternity leave and in South Africa we only get 4 months.... Not fair

We get 12 weeks in the US.

 

[mdscpa]

And here I only have 1 month.... And for dads a FREAKING 1 day!!!!

 

[melewen]

But ours in the us is unpaid! So crappy!

 

[TTC74]

But ours in the us is unpaid! So crappy!

Indeed!

 

[WunnaBubba2]

You would think that moms would be looked after better grrr! Ours is unpaid as well. You can count yourself seriously lucky if you work for a company who is willing to pay you while on leave.

 

[Jrepp]

Mary Ive been thinking a lot about your ivf coverage. I tnk that you need to get in asap to the clinic before waiting for your 7dpo bloods. They can knock that test out and get it off your list of things you need to get done before you can start ivf. Plus that way you may be able to start everything in a few weeks when AF comes (if AF comes). You shouldn't need a referral to get into the fertility clinic. Also, don't out too much weight on success rates, even though it's tempting. there are doctors who pad their stats and whatnot.

 

[aidensmommy1]

Mary Ive been thinking a lot about your ivf coverage. I tnk that you need to get in asap to the clinic before waiting for your 7dpo bloods. They can knock that test out and get it off your list of things you need to get done before you can start ivf. Plus that way you may be able to start everything in a few weeks when AF comes (if AF comes). You shouldn't need a referral to get into the fertility clinic. Also, don't out too much weight on success rates, even though it's tempting. there are doctors who pad their stats and whatnot.

Yeah, ive been reading so much about it and my doctor actually said the exact thing about success rates when I spoke to her about 2 hrs ago. I do need a referral for my insurance company to pay though so I called and demanded to be referred to the IVF specialist and guess what?! THEY ACTUALLY DID WHAT I ASKED! LoL. Its about time! I made it clear about how short of time I have to get this done. The IVF clinic is going to call me by the end of next week to set up my consultation . Ill still be getting my 7dpo bloods done at my regular OBs but they'll forward the results straight to my RE so all should be set to go by the end of this cycle . I'm so incredibly happy about this. I'm also very annoyed though that my doctor SWORE up and down that there was no way my insurance would cover more than 10-20% of it but yet she kept mentioning IVF as our only option and then come to find out, it could of been done right after my HSG last yr! Had she of referred me to a RE when I originally asked last May, I would have probably known sooner. But I'm very thankful I found out on time for at least 1 round, likely 2 since I got my insurance to extend out 28days before shut off but hopefullyyyy we won't need more than one round. FX!
This has taught me that everything def does happen for a reason. The doc didn't want to do my repeat HSG sooo badly that she told me I had to contact my insurance company about it (which ALL my doctors have always, always, done for me) and when I made that call, I decided I'd ask about ALL fertility benefits and the second she said 100% IVF coverage, I cut her off and said "enough said! You are amazing!" and I was immediately in tears of joy on the phone lol.

But anyway, I am def being more persistent about getting this started then I have ever been about anything. I feel theres a very good reason that I learned of my coverage JUST in time. I'm hoping to get in for my consultation by the start of next cycle, if not sooner, and hopefully they have me on the meds AND in for egg retrieval by mid march. That'd be perfect timing for a 2nd round, if needed. I was also told they may even give me a shot that will keep AF from coming and that way it can be started without actually waiting for another cycle after my consultation. Then they'd have me start the hormones to form more mature eggs before retrieval. So as u said, I may be able to start before I even get a period, or at least before I get my period after AF this cycle. This is all beyond exciting! I had a feeling for March and thats most likely when IVF will be started/done. FX!
But yea, after calling places and researching Dr google all day, like you said, ive learned not to pay too much attention to the ratings when choosing a RE now. There's so many different factors that can affect whether it succeeds or not and I know my own personal success rate is over 65%, due to the fact that I had one full-term pregnancy in the past, my uterus is great, and then mine and dh's age DEF ups our odds. My doctor said she obv can't promise it'll work 1st time of course but she did say that we have all the odds working in our favor, which def makes me feel good. I just worry about the doctor not completing the fertilization process correctly & causing it to fail but I do know the RE I'll be seeing is very well experienced with IVF and has been apart of many studies all along the east coast so that makes me feel better and I need to just take the chance regardless. This is a great opportunity and I will NOT let it pass us by!! Its funny because the same specialist I researched and told DH id like to see is the same one my OB told me she'd like to refer me to. At least she made one good choice to help me with my infertility! Lol, I still can't get over how much un-needed crap she has put me through during these last 2yrs.

Ill update u when I know when the consultation is scheduled for and all that good stuff. You and I think ALOT alike, Jess. Ive always noticed that. I seriously feel like your reading my mind sometimes & vice versa, lol . I'm still going to be temping in the meantime to watch my O day and such but we're switching to NTNP until IVF. We know IVF is most likely it for us so we're focusing on that only, while we can. Thank you for ur advice also, Jess. Your posts have been making me feel much better about the time frame I have. I truly need that reassurance. I randomly find myself panicking that we won't be done on time but now that I know I have the 28 days after my bday, I feel better as well. I thought my insur would run out on June 2nd but they pushed it to June 30th. That 28 days could seriously make ALL the difference, u know? Anyway, I'm rambling, as always . I cant wait to start this new chapter in our TTC journey and im very thankful to have you and all the other ladies supporting me through it. Lets get it started already! Lol .

 

[Jrepp]

I learned a lot about ivf through the blog world. So many women out there are going through exactly what you are going through. I never made it to ivf, but was literally days away from starting iui cycles so it can definitely happen.

 

[aidensmommy1]

Another BIG thank you your way Jess! I was actually on some IVF threads but I honestly didn't think id have a chance at it for quite some time so I strayed away from that thread and decided to focus on naturally conceiving, as that was my only option, that I knew of. Now that you've mentioned it, I better go back and join another IVF thread to learn about and get a better idea of the whole IVF process as much as possible before I go in myself . I dont think ill be out of disbelief that this is really happening until after it happens. It seems very surreal to me. I'm over here doing the happy dance just thinking about it! Lol.

 

[Jrepp]

I am so happy for you!!!! Now I truly know you'll have a bfp in no time!

You guys.....pregnancy brain hit hard today. I reached for my glass of water and wound up grabbing my nephews bottle instead. Formula tastes disgusting!! And I almost did it again just now

 

[cutieq]

You ladies made me to check my leave. Looks like I get 11 weeks but it's paid at 60%

 

[starryjune]

Mine is stupid... but I think I would be able to talk them into at least partial pay for taking a few months but doing the work I need to from home so that no one is covering for me. I could manage that because I can basically get things done a few months ahead, then I just have like 2 hours per week of things I must do "live." All I know is my boss - a co-founder of the company - knows I'm hoping to get pregnant and he's super excited/supportive and when I asked about how it would work WITH work, he said we'd (him and I and the big boss) would need to have a talk early on to plan for my absence, how much time I'd want, if I'd want to come back in the same position, etc. I think I'd want to stay where I'm at - FT and manager level. But luckily my husband just got a decent enough raise that me going PT could be an option... I kind of like the idea of that if I could keep my health insurance here. But my husband's insurance would be a decent option, too. Things I hope I HAVE to think about one day.

 

[melewen]

Dani that is amazing! Isn't it sad though that we get so excited over any percent paid when our parents all got 100%?! Psh

I'm self employed so there's no real way around it for me anyway but my partner is excited about us wanting a baby so I'm sure she'll work extra hard during that time and I get paid a portion of it. And I can also go "back to work" at like six weeks once the baby can go more than about 2 hours without needing to be fed and not work too hard, just some development here and there

 

[WunnaBubba2]

Mary, I'm so happy that you got your referral!!!!!!!

 

[snshine23]

So here I am 8DPO and boobs still aren't sore. I have had really bad insomnia the past 2 nights, which isn't normal for me. I know this can be due to hormones, but it's driving me nuts! I just want sleep! Damn hormones!

 

[mommysylvia]

So here I am 8DPO and boobs still aren't sore. I have had really bad insomnia the past 2 nights, which isn't normal for me. I know this can be due to a rise in progesterone, but it's driving me nuts! I just want sleep!

FX you have a bfp coming up!!

 

[aidensmommy1]

Mary, I'm so happy that you got your referral!!!!!!!

Thank u! I'm soo incredibly grateful for this opportunity! Its all I can think about!!!

Today my mind will def be elsewhere tho. My poor lil Aiden has been puking all night and DH gets put under today to have 2 very impacted wisdom teeth pulled. I feel so bad for Aiden and I know DH is going to be in pain too. My poor boys Hopefully Aidens feeling better at some point today, as his birthday is tomorrow. I cant stand to see him THIS sick. It breaks my heart.

June, ur chart looks great! I like how ur temps are slopping upwards. FX a BFP is on its way!

Good luck sunshne!!!

 

[TTC74]

Nice low pre-O temps. Based on my fertility monitor peak reading and almost pos OPK, I'm guessing I'll O on a nice healthy CD13 which will throw me into the TWW a tad early. I'm very optimistic this month. Fx!

 

[aidensmommy1]

I am so happy for you!!!! Now I truly know you'll have a bfp in no time!

You guys.....pregnancy brain hit hard today. I reached for my glass of water and wound up grabbing my nephews bottle instead. Formula tastes disgusting!! And I almost did it again just now

Thats so exciting to hear the words "U will truly have a BFP in no time!" Those words are simply amazing!

Hahah about the bottle! I cant even count the number of times pregnancy brain got the best of me while pregnant with Aiden lol. And omg, the formula is disgusting!!!! I tried it out of curiosity while feeding aiden one day (lol) and I literally wanted to throw up, and I wasn't even pregnant at that time . There's one word to describe the taste of formula and the baby rice...CARDBOARD! Does that sound right to u Jess? LoL.

 

[snshine23]

Mary, I'm so happy that you got your referral!!!!!!!

Thank u! I'm soo incredibly grateful for this opportunity! Its all I can think about!!!

Today my mind will def be elsewhere tho. My poor lil Aiden has been puking all night and DH gets put under today to have 2 very impacted wisdom teeth pulled. I feel so bad for Aiden and I know DH is going to be in pain too. My poor boys Hopefully Aidens feeling better at some point today, as his birthday is tomorrow. I cant stand to see him THIS sick. It breaks my heart.

June, ur chart looks great! I like how ur temps are slopping upwards. FX a BFP is on its way!

Good luck sunshne!!!

Sorry to hear that your son is sick Good luck to your DH too! And did you see my other post saying I'm in NH too! My DH works for the state just like your mom!