Sticking Together Until We All Get BFP's!!!!

[Michellebelle]

Today's update - no line

I just don't feel pregnant either

 

[Michellebelle]

I'm trying to figure out why it was so easy to get pregnant three times last year, and can't manage to do it this year?

Any thoughts or things I should ask my doctor when I see him next?

 

[TTC74]

Do you think you have egg quality probs, Michelle? I took DHEA to improve egg quality for a few months prior to getting pregnant. I feel like we might have discussed this before, but I thought I'd mention it.

 

[aidensmommy1]

Michelle, I was thinking the same, possibly egg quality, before I saw Angela's response. I still have hope for u this cycle but if u aren't pregnant, I'd def look into trying DHEA. There's been IVF studies on women with poor egg quality and I forget the percentages but I do know it helped a good % of the women's egg quality by a lot.. Enough to have a H&H pregnancy! Def worth looking into! That could explain the recurrent miscarriage too. It can be fixed so don't let us freak you out at all! I'm hoping you already have your sticky bean getting snug in there as we speak! Crossing my fingers tighter then ever!

 

[Michellebelle]

So I can ask my doctor about dhea, but from what I've read it may not be great for people with pcos. And when they did a hormone panel to diagnose me, my dhea was elevated already. But I'm not sure. Worth asking my doc about!

I'm a little scared that I have scarring or something from my last d&c. But I hear if you have that, you won't build up lining like normal and I definitely show I build lining fine on my scans. But I'm gonna ask my doc about that too.

Maybe we just got really lucky last year?

 

[TTC74]

Oh! You have PCOS. Yes. I've read that it isn't good for that condition too.

It can take a while sometimes. I got 3 BFPs in 2.5 years (all in the last year). It'll come for you and stick this time. Heck, it may still come this month!

 

[Michellebelle]

Thanks guys. I was all teary-eyed this morning, but the support of all of you means so much and continues to give me hope! I'm just tired of spending so much money every month and it not working. But it will soon!

 

[aidensmommy1]

Hoping for some good news from u Michelle!
I'm sure there's something other then DHEA that can be given to help increase egg quality and overall fertility health. And I think you're right.. You must have gotten really lucky last year because if u think about it, even with timed intercourse and great fertility, a couple only has a 20% chance each month so there's a good chance there's nothing wrong. I'm betting you'll have your *sticky* BFP within the next month or two, if it doesn't happen this month that is. Do you guys have a back up plan for next cycle or are you planning to talk to your RE about everything first?

 

[Michellebelle]

I think we'll talk to the RE. I know my husband is open to doing another SA. His last year came back fine, but curious if anything has changed. He also goes for runs in 95 and 100-degree weather, which he doesn't think affects anything, but I wonder. I also am curious if another HSG is a good idea for me. I'll ask my doc about all these things and try to budget for the cost! Booo insurance not covering fertility stuff.

 

[aidensmommy1]

I think an SA and an HSG (mostly the HSG) could really help. That way if you got anything "clogged" in a tube, it could clear the way and help u get ur BFP. And I'd wonder about the runs in hot weather, too. Hopefully his SA will come back fine again but it couldn't hurt to check. Do you know have any fertility coverage at all? Insurance companies really need to up their game on covering fertility meds and procedures. Infertility is a disease.. We deserve medical help/coverage for that disease just like any other!! Hopefully one day soon..

I'm still holding out hope for you for this cycle though, FYI!

 

[aidensmommy1]

Omg did u guys hear about the man who confessed to giving false info to a sperm bank in Georgia and possibly others and has gathered AT LEAST 36 children?? That's so messed up! He said he had no mental health issues but he has bipolar, skitzofrenia, and other mental Illnesses. And he also said he was getting his Ph.D. For neuroscience engineering, which is far from true. My biggest concern is if this sperm bank let of that stuff slip by (did they not look at college transcripts or medical history records??) then I really hope they didn't let anything slip by when it came to the actually medical screening done by the sperm clinic, mainly for STDs. Immediately I looked up to see which clinic he was affiliated with. THANK GOD it's not ours! They said not all parents were notified yet due to him being an anonymous donor but they released his info after learning this information. I would most definitely be suing if that happened to us. Thank god it didn't. People spend a lot of money for donor sperm and they should be able to trust that everything was done correctly. It's so messed up that someone would do that. I hope the families nail him and the clinic in court! Yes, they should definitely still be thankful for their LO regardless and I'm sure they are but the fact that they have to worry about all of these health risks now isn't fair. Some guy made a comment about the article that "there's a reason Canada has a law that sperm can't be sold. Period. If you chose to go against nature and have to pay extra health costs because of it, that's something you brought on yourself by thinking you can and should have everything you want by buying it." Omg, u have no idea how angry that statement made me. He said more harsh stuff but I can't remember word for word. I replied with a very nasty response! lol. Anyway, there was no place better for me to rant about this situation, especially since u girls are basically the only ones who even know we had to use a donor. I've been wondering if any of our BnB friends that we've met along the way on here are any of the couples/women that were victimized by this man. I hate to call it victimized just because they have their beautiful babies but some ppl use donor sperm JUST to insure better health then their own sperm can potentially offer an offspring, u know? And it's just the principal. I could go on forever lol. Anyway, figured I'd see if any of u have heard about this yet.

Michelle how's everything going with you?

 

[Michellebelle]

Started a new cycle today. Hoping I don't have any cysts so we can get on with the meds again this cycle.

Omg, that is terrible that the guy lied! I feel terrible for those families that they do have that additional worry now, since the guy wasn't truthful. Hopefully this is a lesson for the clinic too, so they properly screen all donors going forward.

And I'd be upset with that guy's comment, too! Clearly he doesn't know anything about infertility struggles or the love for children.

 

[TTC74]

You have to wonder how often people do lie to sperm banks and families of donor eggs. Some people are sick. Hopefully I'm just pessimistic, though. With my job, I see the worst of people.

I went shopping yesterday for maternity clothes because I'm popping at the seems! It feels amazing! I was a little weirded out about whether I was early to be showing but dr Google says I'm pretty spot on.

 

[aidensmommy1]

Angela, about 15 weeks was when my belly popped with both Aiden and Alexia so I'd def agree with Google in saying this is a common time for that to happen

Michelle, I'm sorry AF showed I was really holding out hope that your BFP would sneak up on us a couple days later then we'd usually expect. Ill keep my fingers crossed that you don't have cysts. Do u usually get pain from your cysts? I know I usually do (but there could be plenty of times that I've had one and didn't even know it I guess lol). Are you still going to be taking your metformin this cycle regardless?

 

[Michellebelle]

I do have cysts. a lot of them. I just feel crushed. The doc suggested moving to ivf, but DH and I just don't have anywhere near the amount of money needed for it.

So instead, we'll take a break this cycle and I'll get an HSG and he'll do another SA to see if there are any issues. I really hope I just have a tube that's a little blocked and that be the explanation of why we aren't getting pregnant.

 

[TTC74]

Dang Michelle. So sorry to hear that. Hope the hsg will do the trick.

 

[froggyfrog]

Michelle, could you look into financing? We financed through a company called ARC, but they only work through contracted doctors. I'm sorry about the cysts. I really hope the hsg does something for you guys.

 

[froggyfrog]

I had my anatomy scan today with the MFM. My OB wanted it done with them because apparently IVF babies are a slight increased chance of heart defect. The baby wasn't fully cooperative, and she couldn't see everything she wanted, but she could see that he has four chambers and they are all pumping the right way. But everything else loos good with him! I have to go back in 4 weeks to see if he is laying in a better position to check his heart in further detail. I will also have to go back at 28 weeks to make sure his growth is on track because I have hypothyroid, and she also wants to keep an eye on my placenta because so far I have placenta previa. She is confident that we still have plenty of time for it to move, so I'm trying not to stress about it. I just really don't want a c section, and I'm on pelvic rest so no doing the deed

 

[aidensmommy1]

Michelle, I was just about to mention talking to Chelsey about what she did to finance IVF. Maybe that could work for u guys? If my meds didn't JUST expire this month, I would've happily donated them to you. :-\. But Chelsey found a great financing company as she said above that is speciaically for fertility/IVF coverage. But I'm hoping for the same as you.. I pray u just have a slight "clog" in your tube(s) that the HSG can push through for you. No matter what happens, I know you and Dh will get your rainbow very soon one way or another. Idk what you guys have been paying for ur medicated cycles but say it's $1000/cycle, if u could get financed for IVF rather then doing more medicated cycles, multiple medicated cycles could potentially add up to pretty close to what ud have to pay for IVF (except ud get to make smaller payments if your able to get financed) and also depended on how much u need to be financed for. I like the plan Chelsey did because it ensures 3 fresh and 3 frozen cycles, I believe, JUST INCASE the first round doesn't work.. It takes some pressure off of you knowing u have another shot already paid for, esp when fully paying out of pocket. Plus then hopefully you'd be able to freeze some embies for future use, making it so you'd only have to pay $3000-5000 for a FET rather then paying the full cost again. (If IVF is need that is.) Just an idea for you and DH to think about. Chelsey is much more educated on IVF financing then I am so I'd def talk to her if you think you'd be interested at all I'm really sorry to hear you have cysts but I'm very hopeful for your BFP in the near future. Who knows, maybe we'll get lucky and you'll get ur BFP this cycle with no meds! FX!

 

[aidensmommy1]

Chelsey, I too had a scan where they focused on Alexia's heart more then they ever did with Aiden due to the risks as well. They sent me to the specialist for that scan so I'm guessing it was the same as what u did. I remember I was all freaked out cuz she just kept looking at the heart and didn't inform me as to why until I asked "is everything alright with my baby's heart?!" And then she filled me in on why it was taking 5+ mins to look at just her heart. They always say risks are higher with IVF babies but when it comes down to it, they aren't much higher what so ever but hey, if they're going to keep an extra eye on everything going on with our LOs for that reason, I'm all for it! It gets u some extra scans sometimes! lol