My sister in law (DH's real sister) met her husband Maarten (who looks very much like your OH Tiffany) in Amsterdam, they came back to America, got married, and then decided that his home with his family (in Amsterdam) was where they would make the most, do the best, etc. And they don't have any children. She's lived there for almost 5 years now (obviously knows the language and everything by now) and they are considering divorce because his mother says he "owes" her for all she did for him growing up, so he spends a lot of time helping his mom and being over there, and apparently that is a cultural thing there?? Idk. But she is coming back to the states in october to see if things work out better when they are taking a break, and he's even willing to move back to America to help things work out. i know that has nothing to do with your situation but just thought it was interesting my sister in law lives there too.