January 2020 Garnets!!!

[OnErth&InHvn]

Had my first prenatal today and got my ultrasound booked for this Friday at 3 pm. The prenatal didn’t provide much for reassurance because she didn’t do a pelvic exam to check the size of my uterus, which I was expecting. So I guess I’ll have to wait until Friday to see. In light of the recent bad news on this thread, I’m definitely feeling a bit of dread and anxiety about it, especially because my symptoms have been so mild this time around.

I too was expecting a pap, exam, bloodwork, etc. Nope. Just " hey you're pregnant" and a scan.

 

[Sophie1234]

Her hcg was that then. She was 8 weeks pregnant or so and went for scan. Baby was 6wks and no heartbeat. She had a medicated, assisted cycle so her dates are spot on.

Oh I see. Sorry if I've given false hope, Ive never really heard of assisted cycles before so wasn't sure how they work. Xx

 

[OnErth&InHvn]

Oh I see. Sorry if I've given false hope, Ive never really heard of assisted cycles before so wasn't sure how they work. Xx

You didn't do anything wrong. Medicated cycles are a bit different mattering how you do them.

 

[co_fostermom]

It's okay Sophie, I felt encouraged not like you gave false hope. I know there's very little chance of things continuing well, that's why I'm praying for a miracle. A lot of people don't understand the difference between assisted cycles and natural ones and I'm always happy to provide answers.

Literati I'm looking forward to hearing positive things from your scan on Friday. Mild symptoms really mean absolutely nothing. I am sorry you didn't get more info out of your appointment today. That's one perk of going through fertility clinics - you get a lot more attention than people do who got pregnant naturally or easily. I'm sure that can be frustrating.

I decided to tell the public today. A) because I was asking for as many prayers as I can get and b) because I'm fed up with never getting to a point in pregnancy where I can comfortably share the happy news. Someone had announced a pregnancy right after I had my scan and it immediately made me angry. Not for them, but for the fact that it never seems to be my turn. I wanted and needed to celebrate my last two pregnancies, however short they were and if this one ends I need to celebrate it too and I want my friends to be able to celebrate it with me. Still holding out hope though.

I have also been ridiculously hungry the last two days. Before that I haven't really wanted to eat. I read that IUGR can be caused by poor maternal nutrition and I'm wondering if I'm just not getting enough calories and water every day. At any rate, I'm trying to make up for it with fruits and nuts and healthy fats like yogurt. I'm gonna try getting some eggs or chicken in there too but we'll see.

 

[Yellowmoon]

Fingers crossed for your scan Literati, I'm sure everything will be great. Symptoms are nothing really to go by, and some people handle things differently to others too. We could be feeling the exact same tiredness, but I might be more whiny about it, if you get what I mean!

Cofostermom- I love your outlook, your positivity and kindness towards others is inspiring and I think you are doing the exact right thing by celebrating this pregnancy and holding on to hope. It's much better to embrace the moment than to worry about what's to come. In this moment you are pregnant and you have been for weeks, so you should be able to share that with others. The first stage of pregnancy is the hardest and we should have hoards of people rallying around us to support us through.

I will be praying for you and celebrating your pregnancy with you too

 

[beccabear86]

In a bit of better news, I had my follow up scan today and I’m happy to report that Baby is now measuring 7 days bigger (than exactly 7 days ago) and HR has also gone up to 160 now. So today is officially 7w6d, and my due date is officially changed to Jan 30th! So phew... I can still be a Garnet. LOL

 

[co_fostermom]

That's really wonderful news becca!

Thank you for the kind words Yellowmoon.

 

[beccabear86]

Thanks co. Praying for a miracle for your family

 

[Literati_Love]

Thank you all for the encouraging words, co foster, yellow moon. You were both quite reassuring.

OnErth - weird that they didn’t do a pelvic exam or pap for you either. I guess things changed since we were both last pregnant?

Becca - beautiful scan, and so glad baby had such a growth spurt! What a relief that you’re still a garnet!

Co foster - that’s great that you announced and let people know what’s going on. Your pregnancy does deserve to be celebrated, and you can use every bit of prayer you can get!

Yellow moon - thanks for the update on how you’re doing! Earlier I must have posted while you were posting, but I did go back and read it!

 

[OnErth&InHvn]

Love- I know they did in 09 and 07, but nope not this pregnancy.

I went bowling tonight with friends. I took it easy but it was fun.

 

[red_head]

Congratulations those that had lovely scans
OnErth and Literai, in the uk we don’t have pelvic or anything and never have at the booking in appointment as far as I’m aware - I think because they prefer not to intrude and possibly introduce a risk of infection unless it’s necessary. We just have bloods and urine done, and a ton of paperwork. I’ve got mine in a couple weeks.
Co fostermom I didn’t know whether to respond but feel horrible ignoring it. I have to be honest as I know when I went through my losses the false hope just made things more painful when I should have been trying to deal with what was happening. I do think that you need to prepare yourself. I’m so so sorry I really am, and I wish it was different as after all you’ve been through you do not deserve this pain. I hope you get a lot of support, and I’m glad you have such a lovely attitude towards celebrating the life you made. Sorry - I don’t know whether it’s better for me to have said nothing and I don’t do it to be hurtful. I wish you so much strength. xx

 

[Fit_Mama2Be]

co_fostermom, praying for a miracle for you. Being in limbo is so hard. Glad you announced your pregnancy, regardless of the outcome it deserves to be acknowledged and celebrated.

Glad your scan went so well BeccaBear! You probably just ovulated late. I didn't ovulate until cd21 with DS and had I not known that I would have thought I was measuring a week behind.

Looking forward to hearing about your scan Literati, glad you don't have to wait too much longer!!

Hope everyone else is doing well.

 

[beccabear86]

So here’s something interesting that I didn’t expect going into this pregnancy. Apparently, any pregnancies after a CS have an increased occurrence of abdominal cramping near the CS incision line.

Am I the only person who wasn’t aware of this? Also... I’ve been having sorta crampy feelings that ease when I adjust the waist of my pants (pull them up, a la Mom-jeans). Wondering if my cramps could be associated with the CS thing, or maybe it’s just my pants getting tight from Baby? As of my 8 wk appt yesterday, I am -1 lb from pre-pregnancy. So IDK what to think.

Has anyone else had similar, mild cramping that eases when you adjust your pants? Do you have a previous CS or no?

 

[OnErth&InHvn]

I've had 2 cs and dont find I have extra cramping or any near my scar. This pregnancy or last 2.

 

[MommyPrice]

BeccaBear - I'm aware that it's common for women with previous cesareans to feel a pain or cramp on their incision. This is my second pregnancy after my only cesarean, and neither last time nor this time have I felt anything there (to be honest though, I barely feel anything there at all anyhow as I think they damaged some nerve endings).

 

[Literati_Love]

I’ve never had a c section, but I can definitely see that being the reason for the cramping near your incision line.

I am so ready for this week to be over. I’ve been extra drowsy this week and am having trouble staying awake at work! Still nervous about tomorrow, but hopefully all goes well. Thanks for all the support.

 

[OnErth&InHvn]

Love you'll be ok!

 

[Pukite]

Hi! Can I join your group? My little one will possibly be here next January, too. I am 9w1d pregnant with baby nr.3.
Not telling anyone yet because I need to do the NIPT test to make sure everything is ok. My eldest 2 are autistic, one of them has genetic issues so I just want to be sure. I maybe sound selfish but I could not make it with 3 special needs kids.
Other than that everything is fine. Had my first official appointment this Tuesday, little bean is more than 2 cm's big, heartrate 175.. my bump is huge compared to my other 2 kids..

 

[ashley2pink]

Welcome Pukite. Hope everything is okay genetically with baby

I’ve felt more nauseous the last few days. I guess I spoke too soon about my nausea not being as bad. Anyone else feel so stuffed after eating a normal amount? I feel like I have no room in my stomach for food to eat a regular sized meal. I just ate a bowl of pasta and then a bunch of watermelon and feel so stuffed. Thing is I still want to eat more pasta as I don’t feel “full” but there is no room, if that makes sense.

 

[OnErth&InHvn]

Hi! Can I join your group? My little one will possibly be here next January, too. I am 9w1d pregnant with baby nr.3.
Not telling anyone yet because I need to do the NIPT test to make sure everything is ok. My eldest 2 are autistic, one of them has genetic issues so I just want to be sure. I maybe sound selfish but I could not make it with 3 special needs kids.
Other than that everything is fine. Had my first official appointment this Tuesday, little bean is more than 2 cm's big, heartrate 175.. my bump is huge compared to my other 2 kids..

My dd2 is autistic. Do you have support? You could handle 3!