My daughter was born at 37 weeks and my son at 36. I had my appendix out with daughter at 21 weeks (if I'm remembering right), started having nasty bh after surgery and at my follow up with OB just a week later I had already dilated to 1. Funneling worked up to effacement and by 30 weeks with both I was dilated to 4. As long as I adhered to my strict bedrest only getting up to pee, staying hydrated and kept up with my terbutaline I was fine. Had betamethasone shots by 32 weeks "just in case." Got the go ahead to GO at 37 weeks with daughter, went out and shoveled the sidewalk and headed to the hospital having her just 4ish hours later. Got the GO at 36 with my son, vacuumed my upstairs carpeted floors and headed to the hospital having him just 3ish hours later. Daughter came out silent and that freaked them right out but she was just fine, no complications. Son had slight retractions, they gave him some oxygen in the room and once he settled down he was just fine as well, no complications. Great apgar scores, no NICU or even nursery time and both came home with me after 48 hours.
I did plenty of research when deciding whether or not to transfer two embryos because of those experiences. Both my fertility specialist, RE and OB all agreed that preterm labor can have a number of reasons behind it. In my case, they are convinced it had to do with my circumstances (was in a terrible unsupportive and abuse marriage - holy stress) and other paternal factors. I read a lot about the paternal factors theories and found it intriguing.
I am remarried now and our marriage is night and day by comparison. Docs are all confident things will not pan out the same way for me this time, although we are anticipating some level of prematurity due to the fact that I'm carrying twins.
OB said anything past Thanksgiving would be fantastic, but as my kids birthdays are 3/4 and 8/9 I think I would be fun as heck to have a 12/3 or 12/13 lol. May seem silly but it gives me something to shoot for and if we (God willing) make it that far it would hopefully mean no NICU time for the babies - by far the biggest goal of all
I do completely understand the fear, but also remember how worse that seemed to make things before. Now, if it starts to creep up on me I immediately launch into prayer or meditation. I absolutely refuse to dwell on something I have zero control over and it's improved my overall wellbeing ten fold this time around